Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: USA All the Way
Re: How do I bring back feelings for hubby?
Thank you for the clarification, Confused. I though cb45 had jumped on the wrong thread!
I melted with the first post. It's the same situation as mine, and I don't know what to do, either. As you identify in the last post, I have a lot of anger and resentment, too, which I'm realizing through this board.
Clearly, from your last post, your husband desires emotional attachment. He's simply looking for it in the wrong places. And yes, it is easier to start something new that to revive something damaged. Yet, the security is in what you have. The hope is he will want to reconcile, because once the bloom is off the rose (and it always will be), the security is with you.
You know what to do. The NCL, the transparency. Him deciding what he wants. Remember the EA is full of love kindlers, everything is fun, joy-filled, forbidden, and not based in reality. It's a drug that takes time to detox from the system, and hurts, like any withdrawal. A legal separation might be a good idea, as it in-house can be confusing and more painful, even for the children.
Be honored that he courted you to impress you, to win you. It doesn't stop with the wedding. He needs to continue to win you.