03-04-2011, 12:36 PM
Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: florida usa
| | Re: ? what to do what to do
[FONT="Century Gothic"]usually u dont wanna give utlmatums as they dont have a good track record (initially) of
bringing about lasting change.
since u have done so, i agree with the follow thru principle
"or else" (u'll be sorry u didnt later).
in fact, if u think he's not doing anything per yer ultimatum,
then WHEN u pack, let him SEE you pack. dont argue, dont
converse with him while u r doing so. H will get the msg
loud n clear with your silent strength (fake it if u have to).
in the meantime, methinks u need to bone up on yer education
of his problem(s). i.e., i'd say alcoholics need a medical intervention kinda approach as the chemical torture that goes
on isnt appreciated by those of us who have not been there.
they need a vitamin protocol, they need plenty of rest and a
good-healthy kinda diet. some even need an institutional
when u study up on his "demons" (and yes u need research on
this topic too or u r doing an incomplete job of it) u'll know
what u r dealing with, what to expect (a big plus), and how
best to be proactive.
if not, u get what u deserve....sort of.....u digg?[FONT]