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I would like to hear from other Christians on this. I struggle to orgasm during intercourse with my husband ( this has also been the case with past partners). It's been 7 years. Do you think if I had a hand held vibratir , that I could use during intercourse only, that this would be OK?

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Re: spiritually speaking, vibrator to enhance intrrcourse

How about a few questions. How long have you been married? Have kids?

Have kids with your husband? You say you have trouble achieving orgasms from intercourse, did it used to be easier?

Does your husband give you oral sex? Have you achieved orgasms from oral, manual or a toy/vibrator in the past?
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OK. Just reviewed a few of your previous threads. You need to be interactive on this one if you want some help. I need to ask you questions and follow up questions.

There is nothing wrong, spiritually, with toys but you need a lot more understanding than that.

Do you attend church? If so what denomination? What do they teach about sex?
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Re: spiritually speaking, vibrator to enhance intrrcourse

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I would like to hear from other Christians on this. I struggle to orgasm during intercourse with my husband ( this has also been the case with past partners). It's been 7 years. Do you think if I had a hand held vibratir , that I could use during intercourse only, that this would be OK?
A great number of women, like 75%, struggle to achieve an orgasm via intercourse alone...and yes, a vibrator would certainly help achieve that. There are sites like Covenant Spice that you can order these things where they don't sell porn or other things that many Christian couples don't wanna see, even on the packaging of the items they sell.

If you both agree that it isn't hurting your conscience, then it ought to be fine. Solo use sounds like it may be a gray area in your household, which is fine, just make sure you both are able to freely communicate those limits, yet at the same time and feel open and vulnerable.
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I would like to hear from other Christians on this. I struggle to orgasm during intercourse with my husband ( this has also been the case with past partners). It's been 7 years. Do you think if I had a hand held vibratir , that I could use during intercourse only, that this would be OK?
Ok with who? God? I would hope he's got better things to worry about.
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I would like to hear from other Christians on this. I struggle to orgasm during intercourse with my husband ( this has also been the case with past partners). It's been 7 years. Do you think if I had a hand held vibratir , that I could use during intercourse only, that this would be OK?

My wifee is LD (low sex drive) and one day, I surprised her with a vibrator, called the silver bullet.

At first, she was shocked but some weeks later, she tried it when I was at work that day. I came home, she was only wearing her housecoat and we had the best sex in our entire marriage. She went crazy with me, admitted she used the vib for the first time and orgasmed from it and the sex we had was fantastic and we used the silver bullet again.

She loves this, missionary, doggie style, doesn't matter.

Otherwise, the only way I can get Mrs.CuddleBug to orgasm is oral sex but using the vib on her at the same time, orgasm!!!

What you and hubby do together sexually is fine. Toys or no toys doesn't matter. It's between you both in marriage......its all good. Sky is the limit.

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I would like to hear from other Christians on this. I struggle to orgasm during intercourse with my husband ( this has also been the case with past partners). It's been 7 years. Do you think if I had a hand held vibratir , that I could use during intercourse only, that this would be OK?
Only 25% of women can ever orgasm during intercourse. Most of us are not built that way.

Does your husband do things other than intercourse to help you have an orgasm?

It's quite alright to use a vibrator or your hand to self stimulate during orgasm.
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Re: spiritually speaking, vibrator to enhance intrrcourse

Why would this be wrong? You're having sex with your husband and you would like to actually achieve a orgasm. Go for it!

I've used it before, helped me once, all other attempts have be less than stellar. I don't think we actually know how to use a vibrator when there are two people involved lol!
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