Re: My husband has recently become religious and I'm sooo not
Let me start off by saying I appreciate everyone’s input.
The whole situation has improved on some fronts. To answer some questions yes, we did talk about it and it resulted in very little resolution. When we first got together and for the past 7 years of our marriage he gave me no indication that he was even slightly religious. We didn’t get married in a church and our officiant was a pastor at a local church that was an acquaintance of my side of the family. I love my husband and we never fought or had a rough patch since we met until now so that is what has me so on edge. When I said our marriage is on the rocks it’s how I felt. I was upset and caught off guard. So much had changed in such a short time and we had actually “talked” about it that day and it didn’t go so well. So I felt like we were just going to stay angry at each other and that’s just how it would stay. He’s still going to attend church on Sundays and no, 3 hours during one day a week is not a deal breaker but owning our own business does not leave a lot of time during the week to spend together so weekends were reserved for family time.
As far as him seeing me differently, the bible (from what he has tried to explain to me) tells you how to live a good/righteous life. Keep in mind I have never read the bible or gone to church so this is very foreign to me. So if I don’t fit into the way a Christian is supposed to live their life that would cause him to view me as, what I believe would be categorized as, a sinner and creating more turmoil later if I don’t change my views. I know someone said that since he did get into this so quickly he is likely to come away from it just as quickly and he is an impulsive person but he says this is something he plans of sticking with.
Some also said the problem could be or is me. Yes, I’m not above saying that it could be me but that is why I wanted to explain this to someone that is not connected to us and get others point of view. I realize it’s nothing drastic like he recently became a drunk or abusive or he’s unfaithful to me I get it, trust me. I needed an outsider’s perspective and this gave me the opportunity.