Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: Pacific Northwest, USA
Re: My husband has recently become religious and I'm sooo not
I can see how this could put a strain on the marriage...in that H may actually incur the lowering of your respect. Also, as he continues to go and is getting edification and support from the church, being more of a part of the community of believers, H may begin to desire you presence...not to mention the burden he may feel concerning your own eternal future.
While the Bible does say to be wary of being "unequally yoked", it also says that if one is married to an unbeliever...and the unbeliever is still devoted to the marriage, then divorce should not be an option.
However, there is one area that should be discussed. If he is committed to his faith and you are committed to not participate...it should be stated that he needs to be going to men's groups and do his best to only associate with mature men. The last thing you need is for your husband to start relationships with women in the church...where basically he is sharing and receiving things from OW that he is unable to with you. Christians in the church cheat as much as non-believers.
You may very much feel like you are losing your husband and it is threatening the foundation of your home. To be honest, if his spiritual journey is genuine and the church is a healthy influence, then you may actually see improvements on his demeanor, attitude, patience, etc. If the changes are having a negative effect on him...whether he is acting increasingly critical or judgemental, the church has an unhealthy influence of control, or he begins to neglect his duties as a husband and whatnot...then it is worth asking him to set boundaries.
Here is a trick: challenge him with the Bible itself. If his beliefs start to be a little loopy or if he is being negative, then challenge him to show you in Scripture where he is justified. Of course, this may mean you may have to study up on the Bible yourself or do lots of online queries about certain issues...but trust me, there is no Biblical justification for ever leaving your family in the dust for church fellowship.