If you're a Christian - you can't participate in pornography in anyway. That's based on the scriptures in the Bible. What you, I or anyone else think is fine. But our own personal beliefs and feelings are actually irrelevant. The final authority must be the Bible.
Desires are one thing. Actions are another. There is nothing forcing anyone to watch porn. It's a choice and you must make an effort to follow through on that choice.
You say you know it's not Christian; then you say your behavior
doesn't line up with what's Christian. You're not "that type". That sounds condescending. What is "that type"? Devout Christians who try to obey what their instruction manual tells them to do?
"Behavior and one's spiritual state are not the same thing"
Okay, according to you. The quotes I referenced below from James 2 and Matthew 7 seem to disagree with you.
And as far as the "I'm not religious, I'm spiritual" approach? I used to find that kind of beautiful and transcendent. But then I began to see it as an excuse. So, it's meaningless to me when I hear people use it to explain why they believe in God, but don't think they have to obey the rules (Bible).
I believe my comment did ask you what you believe; germane to the thread topic. And I apologized in advance if I had you confused with anyone else.
Why would you debate your relationship to Christ, or his existence?
1 Peter 3:15 ". . . But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect."
By your posts on this forum, I do have respect and regard for your intelligence, jacquen. And obviously, I utterly disagree with you on this issue.
OP, I apologize if I have threadjacked. But perhaps you can glean something from it. Certainly, how divisive religion can be.
And for perspective; I am someone who would still identify as Christian. But probably hanging on to my faith by a string.
Good Luck to you and your husband.
Job 31:1 I made a covenant with my eyes
not to look lustfully at a young woman.
Exodus 20:14, 17
14 You shall not commit adultery*.
17 . . . . . You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife . . . .
27 You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’* 28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.
Matthew 7:16, 17
By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles?
1 Cor. 6:9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the Kingdom of God? Be not deceived: Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor the effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind
James 2: 24
24 You see that a person is considered righteous by what they do and not by faith alone.
The type to lie and pretend.
I could regale you with stories all day long about the goodness of the living God. About what he's done for me. About how incredible our relationship is, how loving, faithful, and beautiful he is, how even in chastisement, he, like a good Father, loves, guides and forgives. I could even give you scripture to counter your mistaken belief that even believers are expected endless perfection in behavior, for the word says that a righteous man isn't the one who does not fall, but the one who gets back up after a fall , time and again (see David, a "man after God's own heart", who certainly had proclivities a lot more involving than mere pornagraphy). It also says that WHEN a man sins, not if, he has an advocate before the Father in the presence of the Son. I could go on and on. Your attempts to corner me with cherry picked. contexteless scriptures, that I know very well, will not work.
I have no trouble sharing my faith. What I will not, do not do, is argue the existence of God or debate my faith. Sharing and debating aren't the same thing. As scripture states, if they're not interested in hearing, shake the dust off your feet and move on. I'm a lover of the free will of us all. It's not my burden, nor my nature, to sit around trying to convince anybody about the existence of God beyond sharing or discussing my faith.
This thread topic is about mixed faith/non-faith marriages. I have stuck to it's topic. Even in the face of Changing Beliefs burning desire to derail the conversation into yet another endless rabble about atheist vs theist, I have not entered into any kind of debate about the existence of God. Because, actually, one can't debate God. You either experience, or you do not. It would be a fruitless endeavour. And ultimately it's neither my desire nor the topic of this thread.
This is why I rarely come into this section. Seems every topic, regardless of how it starts, devolves into this nonsense. Belief vs Unbelief. I have no interest in it.
Again, if for whatever reason you're interested in discussing my faith, PM me. Up to this point you never have. Now here you are, for only reasons God knows, taking small sections of posts from TAM and attempting to judge my entire walk with the living God. You actually know almost nothing about my life, though oddly enough you're making incredible assumptions, all without once bothering to engage in a conversation. Perhaps I am wrong, but you seem to be here to battle, not actually engage, and perhaps someone else will oblige you.
It won't be me.