Re: Christian contemplating divorce
The purpose of the law is to show us how unworthy we are and in need of salvation. For everything there is a season and a time for every purpose under heaven. The same God that gave life to all creatures also gave animals the ability to hide, escape, fight, and kill.
You were not created in the image of God to be abused, belittled, or imprisoned.
My mom (a devout Christian) was physically and psychologically abused by my dad for many years. I'm sure she engaged in the same self-debate you are having. While she was with my dad, she was a half person, maybe a quarter person. She couldn't be all that God expected and planned for her. She eventually left my dad and ultimately married a decent Christian man. Together, they run a business, a church, and a non-profit ministry for the poor. She is now a whole person and a far more effective servant for God. I can't imagine that a loving God would prefer his child be abused. Maybe because she left him, my dad started getting his head screwed on straight and now he, too, is a far better person and he is married to a stronger woman whom he treats with respect.
When the books of the Bible were written, women were basically property, themselves, and had no property rights. If a man divorced his wife back then, she was condemned to be a beggar or a prostitute. The same Bible that says it's a sin to commit adultery also says a deceased man's brother is supposed to have sex with his brother's widow. Again, any historical writing (even the Bible) has to be viewed in the context of the times it was written. Property was handed down through male heirs, so having a son was vital for a widow's survival.
I've got a couple daughters whom I love. I know God loves them even more. I couldn't bear the thought of my children living in an abusive relationship and I'm only a miserable, sinful, mortal. I really can't imagine that a God who knitted you in the womb in his own image, who knows exactly how many hairs are on your head, who actually feels everything in your heart, would be pleased to watch you merely exist in an abusive relationship. I think He would be especially displeased if He thought you were trapped only because you believed it was His will. If He didn't pick this guy for you, why would you blame Him for your continued unhappiness?