02-28-2012, 10:19 AM
Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: down south
| | Re: anyone else stuck to a failed marriage due to religious beliefs?
I am, partially. I am Christian but I don't blindly follow any faith. I don't attend church right now only because I can't really find a church that shares my beliefs enough to justify my going there. I'd love to find other like-minded people, though, to fellowship with. I am well-educated and have come to believe because I think there is good evidence that God exists and that Christianity is true.
I'm stuck in a marriage with a man who has been very verbally and emotionally abusive to me for a long time. He also is a habitual substance abuser. I'm not against drinking at all and enjoy a beer at times myself, but I don't get drunk every day and stay that way most of the time. He drinks and/or gets stoned every single day. He also does not work, doesn't help much around the house, won't help the kids with their homework and is not too involved with them at all and generally just does his "own thing" without much thought of what I think.
Part of the reason I haven't left is because I feel that my faith has told me to forgive others as God has forgiven me, to be long-suffering and to try to preserve the marriage if possible. I do think that no one should stay in a physically abusive marriage or one with infidelity, but I wonder if this is "my cross to bear" sometimes. I would love to get out of the marriage and find someone with whom I'm truly compatible, but I'm not sure that person exists. I'm also not sure if re-marrying after divorce is OK. So, yes, I've stayed in this marriage due in part to my faith.