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post #16 of 26 (permalink) Old 01-23-2016, 06:03 PM
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I ask myself..how long do I wait? Do I wait? Yes, I can prompt-turn in the sheet/paperwork that's missing. You wait until you don't want to wait anymore.
Our 60 day wait period-for our state-isn't up until Feb 11.

Maybe you wait until Feb 11?

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Our 60 day wait period-for our state-isn't up until Feb 11.

Maybe you wait until Feb 11?
I was thinking of that also. I fluctuate between....just pulling the plug now; waiting as God did tell me to "be still" at the beginning of this drama; and waiting until the end of my fast (beginning of Feb).

I am living my life still...working; going out with friends; counseling; church; taking care of myself and my surroundings. It's just a sad thing overall no matter what the reason.

Having him do the divorce work....somehow feels right. Let him feel the extra pain of going to the courthouse, etc.

Then, it's like why do I need to wait for him and give him that decision among the others?
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I'm sorry you are going through all this pain, Corpuswife.
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I received a text last night. He was asking for the concert tickets we had purchased in October. I knew he would as he cannot let anything lie that is material oriented. Plus, I believe it serves as a "reason" to contact me.

I told him to call me when he had a chance. He did. I asked him "where is your head regarding the divorce?" He said "I am following through with it. I said "do you have all of the paperwork turned in?" He said "yes. I am just waiting on the court date." I told him that I was looking forward to the concert. He said "ok. I will figure something out.??" I expressed that I wanted ti done.

My intention, for the phone call, was to encourage the divorce. I've come to the point. When he asked for the tickets, it was more of the same. He is no where near redemption. Among everything else that's happened-this was it for me.

I contacted my BF, she asked "who was he going to take?" I don't know. But I still have his credit card and I thought, I wonder if anything reveal itself. It did.

I found out, through the automated service...that when we came back from our vacation (if you can call it that), he signed up for Match.com. Just a few days later-no surprise. He was still angry and acting a fool. I found charged for sushi and place we discovered that was in a close by town. This was at the beginning of January.

It further confirmed my decision.

Then, he texted after after the phone conversation. "Did I pay for the tickets. I think I gave you the card to get them." I didn't reply and then 30 minutes later, he says "I guess I did pay for them since you didn't answer!"

He is cut out. I texted him "Leave me alone. I don't have anything to say to you. Just leave me alone."

He then says, "I am sorry I upset you."

"Can I have Baileys (puppy) for a few days?" ( I had originally said he could take her for a few days as I didn't want him to visit.)

I am not responding to anything. He doesn't deserve my response. I just need to know the date of the divorce that's it. Even that is iffy.

By the way, he lied about turning all the paperwork. The county website says different. Perhaps he will now. So looking forward to disconnecting, on paper and in my heart, from a cruel, evil man.
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waiting as God did tell me to "be still" at the beginning of this drama
How did God tell you to "be still"?

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Having him do the divorce work....somehow feels right. Let him feel the extra pain of going to the courthouse, etc.
You're giving him all of the power and control, right through to the end. It might "feel right" but is it really the best way to handle it?

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Then, it's like why do I need to wait for him and give him that decision among the others?
You don't.
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How did God tell you to "be still"?



You're giving him all of the power and control, right through to the end. It might "feel right" but is it really the best way to handle it?



You don't.
"Be still" came to me while on vacation...out of the blue. I was in the mountains, praying and it came in my thoughts.

I now understand what it meant. Events unfolded without my prompting. My answers were laid on my lap.

There is no question that I am moving on. I've emailed the county clerk to see if the divorce waiver has been turned in or the website hasn't been updated. If infusing been turned in....I will fill out another one and turn it in myself.

He holds no value to me. Not worth my breath. I pray for him and love him but he isn't someone I want to talk to or see again.

By the way ladies....my friends tell me and I've seen one of his profiles on 2 online dating sites. He values "honesty. Doesn't like drama. There is a way to settle disagreements while holding hands." I pray for the woman who fall for his "divorced" self.
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Re: Separated and Waiting on husband or God?

I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

Is an annulment possible through the church? I know these are rarely granted, but maybe the relapse could qualify?
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I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

Is an annulment possible through the church? I know these are rarely granted, but maybe the relapse could qualify?
I am a non-denominational Christian. He is a sick man, at this point....drugs, women/adultery.....Divorce is my only option.

He filed and is not willing to work out anything and continues dating online. There is nothing left.
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I absolutely will commit this to prayer. The Lord has been so helpful in my life through some very bad struggles. I believe in the power of prayer as God has been good and answered many. I'm sorry you have had to go thru this. Keep trusting God asking for him to lead you in all that you do and say. I'm sure that God hates to see marriages in trouble and believe he has the power to help straighten this situation out. Looks like your hubby has been lying quite a lot or he just has a lot of inner struggles. I will continue to lift him up that he truly commits himself to God and stays in a real relationship with Him. God Bless you both.
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I'm sure that God hates to see marriages in trouble and believe he has the power to help straighten this situation out.
Then why are there so many failed marriages?



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Then why are there so many failed marriages?


Often, it's because of our worldly values and choices. God will never force us to follow him. We have free will...

Thanks Frogggy for your prayers!
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