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post #16 of 35 (permalink) Old 02-06-2016, 10:25 AM
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I don't fear death either, but as has been mentioned I do NOT want to be a burden on anyone when it happens. Pull the damn plug and let me go! And after I am dead I could not care any less if they fed me to the dogs. Although my wish is to be cremated and flushed down the toilet to be reunited with the best part of me.


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Something I read years ago as a kid has stuck with me all these years.

it was a boy scout book and in it had a short story about some explorers in the late 1890s in labrador who got delayed and caught in the dead of winter. It was really a story about how important it is to be able to make a fire, anywhere, any time, even in a blizzard. That was the only thing that kept them alive for weeks. They were starving and almost delerious and near death. Out of desperation, they had to boil water and make a broth with their moccasins just to stay alive. But what stuck with me was something he said. He said that they were sure they were going to die, it was just a matter of when. They didnt want to die; their will to live was stiill there. But he said they had a peace about it and were not scared. He said he is convinced that in the moment of imminent death, the almighty robs us of our fears and allows us to pass into the next world with peace in our hearts.

dont know that it's true, but something I ponder every now.
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When I die, I want to die like my grandfather who died peacefully in his sleep. Not screaming like all the passengers in his car.
I heard it was a bus.

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When it's my time, I would like to have some advance warning to ensure I've left instructions for how to clean the ceramic cook top, that no one seems to grasp.
Then write them down now and make someone follow them so you can see that they know how to do it.

That's what I do with my instructions for my wife on how to access all our financial stuff.

(Write down anything in the latter category too, of course, if you haven't already.)

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My hb doesn't have that problem with me

He knows I'll take care of myself just fine, but I will miss him terribly.

With an age difference like ours it's highly likely he'll go quite a while before me.

But I guess you never know
No, you never do. Which is good in the sense that it makes life insurance possible, but otherwise not so good.

An example of "never knowing" is what happened to the first supervisor I had at my first job as an actuarial student, which I started in 1969. I came back a few years later as a consultant and he was very ill. He died of pineal gland cancer fairly soon thereafter. I doubt he could have been much more than 40. Is it ironic that an actuary should die of such an incredibly rare disease?

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No, you never do. Which is good in the sense that it makes life insurance possible, but otherwise not so good.

An example of "never knowing" is what happened to the first supervisor I had at my first job as an actuarial student, which I started in 1969. I came back a few years later as a consultant and he was very ill. He died of pineal gland cancer fairly soon thereafter. I doubt he could have been much more than 40. Is it ironic that an actuary should die of such an incredibly rare disease?
Right?

My hb knows a guy who used to be a senior VP at his old insurance company. He was in his early 60's and had a wife in her mid 40's.

They had been together a long time and had grown children. ... everyone who knew him knew he was married and adored her.
She had a sudden aneurysm on the floor of their condo.

I'm sure he never imagined he'd bury her.

I met him right after she'd passed and I knew he'd be remarried as soon as he wanted. He was good looking, in great shape, had a crap load of money, lived in Sawgrass (assuming you're familiar with that) and was an interesting guy to know.

He eventually remarried.

I've heard widowers that had happy marriages remarry the fastest because they want to have that again.
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Right?

My hb knows a guy who used to be a senior VP at his old insurance company. He was in his early 60's and had a wife in her mid 40's.

They had been together a long time and had grown children. ... everyone who knew him knew he was married and adored her.
She had a sudden aneurysm on the floor of their condo.

I'm sure he never imagined he'd bury her.

I met him right after she'd passed and I knew he'd be remarried as soon as he wanted. He was good looking, in great shape, had a crap load of money, lived in Sawgrass (assuming you're familiar with that) and was an interesting guy to know.

He eventually remarried.

I've heard widowers that had happy marriages remarry the fastest because they want to have that again.
Makes sense.

(I've never heard of Sawgrass, though. What/where is it?)

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Then write them down now and make someone follow them so you can see that they know how to do it.

That's what I do with my instructions for my wife on how to access all our financial stuff.

(Write down anything in the latter category too, of course, if you haven't already.)
Yeh, my mom wont let me clean the ceramic stovetop either.'You need to do it special way' she says. When I ask her how to do it, she says;
'Never mind, I know how its done, I'll do it myself'.
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Makes sense.

(I've never heard of Sawgrass, though. What/where is it?)
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I can have very bad Laryngo spasms; where I can inhale but not exhale. Most last about 60-90 seconds but I have passed out from them a few times. Doc assures me that I will always start breathing again. They happen every few weeks.

It feels like dying every time. The only thing I can do is to try to calm down my mind.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Laryngospasm

So no Im not afraid death I just want to go out alert not drugged in to a stupor.

Here is a joke I tell about death:

Grandpa lived to be 94 and he smoked and drank every day until he was hit by a bus. We think he was drunk chasing his lighter.

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I can have very bad Laryngo spasms; where I can inhale but not exhale. Most last about 60-90 seconds but I have passed out from them a few times. Doc assures me that I will always start breathing again. They happen every few weeks.

It feels like dying every time. The only thing I can do is to try to calm down my mind.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Laryngospasm

So no Im not afraid death I just want to go out alert not drugged in to a stupor.

Here is a joke I tell about death:

Grandpa lived to be 94 and he smoked and drank every day until he was hit by a bus. We think he was drunk chasing his lighter.
Ouch, that sounds terrible. Sorry to hear that you have such an uncomfortable situation to deal with.

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Then write them down now and make someone follow them so you can see that they know how to do it.

That's what I do with my instructions for my wife on how to access all our financial stuff.

(Write down anything in the latter category too, of course, if you haven't already.)
Having spent 20 years as the pool boy desperately trying to get anyone else to take over that job it is futile to expect anyone else to have the sense of ownership, thus stake in how a thing should be done properly. Being well acquainted with planned helplessness, my husband has the same complaint regarding my inability to manage the finances.

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I have decided that when I get to a point of realizing that I will end up in the nursing home like my father I am going to drive myself to an isolated national forest in the winter, bring a bottle of Jack Daniels and drink till I pass out. One way or another that would do it, the cold, the booze or the wolves will take care of it. And if that don't work I will OD on my insulin to speed things along. I will never go into a nursing home.

I think I'm afraid to be happy. Because whenever I get to happy, something bad always happens.
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Having spent 20 years as the pool boy desperately trying to get anyone else to take over that job it is futile to expect anyone else to have the sense of ownership, thus stake in how a thing should be done properly. Being well acquainted with planned helplessness, my husband has the same complaint regarding my inability to manage the finances.
So you are unable to manage the finances? Then your finances are too complicated and should be simplified. Otherwise what will happen to you if your husband dies or disappears somehow?

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So you are unable to manage the finances? Then your finances are too complicated and should be simplified. Otherwise what will happen to you if your husband dies or disappears somehow?

I suppose once forced to do a thing one learns how to do a thing.

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