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post #1 of 35 (permalink) Old 02-05-2016, 05:11 PM Thread Starter
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Anyone here that is afraid to Die? What are your fears?

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I'm not afraid to die, but I am afraid of dying a prolonged and painful death. I just lost my very close friend to cancer she was 31 and leaves 3 young children behind. She died a very slow and painful death. I've got another friend who is in his 40's that is stage 4 bone and kidney cancer. It is such an evil disease.
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I'm with Kristin. I'm not afraid of death, but I am afraid of pain.

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It's more a matter of leaving unfinished business.

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I don't fear death. Actually, the big problem I have with death is that I don't get to find out what happens in the world after I'm gone.

I wouldn't want to leave my wife behind without her knowing how to take care of all the financial stuff that I do for us, but I've spent a fair amount of time trying to ensure that she has all that information and knows how to do whatever would be required to keep everything in good shape.

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technovelist; really like what you had to say. As a Christian I don't fear death but its about the same answer you had to say. Hate leaving all my grand kids too and of course my wife and son and daughter.
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I had a situation last month where I felt I will die. A very horrible plane landing.
In between the shuddering noises and bouncing, all I felt was peace.
The insurance premium is paid.
I don't care if I die before this post is saved.

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I had a situation last month where I felt I will die. A very horrible plane landing.
In between the shuddering noises and bouncing, all I felt was peace.
The insurance premium is paid.
I don't care if I die before this post is saved.
Well, don't keep us in suspense! Did you live long enough to save it?

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How often does the fear of death keep us from living?

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I was deathly afraid of death as a child, I couldn't grasp the concept that when you're dead it's all over.

Nowadays, I just roll with it and as others have said, hope that it's painless and fast when it happens.

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I'm not afraid of death, I'm afraid of how I might die. There are good deaths, bad deaths and horrible deaths. My father and sister had good deaths, he died suddenly yet not unexpectedly and she died from kidney cancer but was relatively active and healthy up until the last 8-12 weeks. My mother and brother had horrible deaths; the kind of deaths that make me form a suicide plan should I end up with a degenerative neurological disease like they had. I think a bad death is when there is no easing into death but instead a painful or protracted battle to hang on even when the body is clearly actively dying.

Interestingly, to me at least, one of my BFF's is from a weekly mass attending Catholic family and both her father and brother were in the active dying stage for two months. Two months of bed ridden, hand holding, vigil sitting, any moment now hanging on as long as possible. Both of those deaths, though not unexpected, were extremely traumatic to her because holding your breath and bracing for the pain of eminent loss for two months is not easing into a death that could not be stopped.

My sister recently died and having been a huge Downton Abby fan, she lamented that she would not see the final season. I watch the show for her.

When it's my time, I would like to have some advance warning to ensure I've left instructions for how to clean the ceramic cook top, that no one seems to grasp.

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“When I die, I want to die like my grandfather who died peacefully in his sleep. Not screaming like all the passengers in his car.”
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post #13 of 35 (permalink) Old 02-06-2016, 09:57 AM
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Not afraid of death. That's going to happen either way. Not really afraid of pain. That can be managed with drugs and without drugs if it's bad enough I'll go into shock. I am afraid of being a helpless burden on my loved ones. I'm afraid of Alzheimer's or dementia. A prolonged exit from this world which reduces me to something less than human bothers me.
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I don't fear death. Actually, the big problem I have with death is that I don't get to find out what happens in the world after I'm gone.

I wouldn't want to leave my wife behind without her knowing how to take care of all the financial stuff that I do for us, but I've spent a fair amount of time trying to ensure that she has all that information and knows how to do whatever would be required to keep everything in good shape.
My hb doesn't have that problem with me

He knows I'll take care of myself just fine, but I will miss him terribly.

With an age difference like ours it's highly likely he'll go quite a while before me.

But I guess you never know


I don't fear death, but I do fear it beforemy boys are out the door as functional adults.

After that whatever I get is cake icing.
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For me, there is no constant.

Sometimes I relfect on my own imminent death with some trepidation.

sometimes I have anxiety about when I wont be here and wont get to bond and watch the nieces and nephews and other loved ones grow into middle age and older.

I fear the day if and when my wife goes before me. The thought of living without her does cause me sorrow.

a few times, ive faced some danger and there have been times when I could say
'Lord if you take me today, let it be your will' with sincereity and peace.

I hope when my time really comes I can face it like that.
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