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post #61 of 66 (permalink) Old 03-16-2016, 05:15 PM
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Re: Has faith/religion helped your relationship?

I sometimes wish I was a religious person. I'm just not. Every attempt to be just seems so forced and contrived.

I've always been a good person though with very strong moral convictions. I don't need a bible to know right from wrong.

So what's stops me from being evil? If I don't fear hell or need salvation? I'm not sure but I'm just not wired to be a bad person.

I don't know how I reconcile the two. I just accept my logical mind won't allow me to have faith. I can't accept something I can't prove exists.


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Think less about religion, and think more about God.

That is the mistake so many people make in their journey of faith.

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I sometimes wish I was a religious person. I'm just not. Every attempt to be just seems so forced and contrived.

I've always been a good person though with very strong moral convictions. I don't need a bible to know right from wrong.

So what's stops me from being evil? If I don't fear hell or need salvation? I'm not sure but I'm just not wired to be a bad person.

I don't know how I reconcile the two. I just accept my logical mind won't allow me to have faith. I can't accept something I can't prove exists.
I know you what you're feeling, I was an atheist for a time, and I get it. Most people who follow God I'd like to believe would still be 'good' people, if they stopped believing in God.
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Re: Has faith/religion helped your relationship?

My set of spiritual and religious beliefs and values have expanded my mind, made me more open-minded, allowed me to stay emotionally calm in the face of distressing situations, soothe others if required.

IMO, this has helped me in all areas of life.

My wife's religious background, on the other hand, has led her to have very rigid beliefs in how things should be, and in fact, the belief that "rigid and unbending is good" applies to all her life, not just ethicial/moral values. Therefore, I believe in her case, it's part of why she has few friends, struggles to keep jobs, and IMO, requires a LOT of emotional support from her husband.

So, it depends on what the religion taught you and how you interpret it and whether you continue your own spiritual path beyond the initial stuff you learned as a kid.
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@deidre- yes it has. I will not go into details but our faith has helped us defeat each and every obstacle.

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Has faith/religion helped my relationship?

Apparently not.

I was raised in a pretty religious family and attended Catholic school. I always had a very strong faith in God. After I married, we worshiped together every Sunday as a family. Life was wonderful. The only thing I ever asked from God was to keep my family (wife and kids) together and to keep us safe. I never asked him for anything else.

After 13 years of marriage, I discovered my XWW was cheating, I still had faith and I still prayed even though my world was falling apart. God was silent. This went on for years until the divorce was final. I felt abandoned by God. For the first time in my life, I stopped praying and going to church completely. In God's eyes, my beautiful family meant nothing. Why should I pray to a God that would ignore my only unselfish request?

I currently have no relationship with God. I'm not sure if he even exists.

I keep hearing people say that God has something even better in the in store. Nothing he could give me now would be better than what I had.

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