Just curious if some of you follow any particular faith/religion or set of spiritual beliefs, and has it helped your relationships? If you were/are struggling in your marriages, do you feel being centered in faith is helping you both to improve the relationship?
I left Christianity for a few years, and then was an atheist for two years, and then returned to the faith last year...and just wonder if making faith the centerpiece of our relationship will help shield us from some pitfalls?
My wife and I who have been long term atheists (from before we met), are happily looking forward to celebrating our 18th wedding anniversary this coming May.
Through close to 21 years of being together, we have found that our absence of belief in a deity or deities, combined with also having largely coincident ethics and values has certainly helped to positively develop our relationship.
Sharing the same perspective has also helped as a bulwark against the consternation, anger and vitriol that is sometimes directed towards us by my wife's mother. As a consequence of her not liking the fact, that we are not raising our children in the Roman Catholic faith.
I can also relate that one set of my (long time from before they were married) atheist grandparents, enjoyed a happy 64 year long marriage that only death brought to an end.
Plus as an aside my above mentioned grandmother survived Tuberculosis without faith, as she also survived losing her first marital home to the German Blitz without faith. Likewise without faith my grandfather survived the landings at Normandy on D-Day through to the conquest of Germany, inclusive of being wounded by shrapnel from German rocket artillery.
That said my other grandparents also enjoyed similar marital longevity and happiness that only death brought to a close. Yet they found comfort in sharing the same faith/religion and first met each other at church. With one of them being the child of a couple who played a notable role in growing the Churches of Christ in Australia.
Regardless of having faith or otherwise some people enjoy terrific long lasting marriages, while others have horrid long lasting marriages, or don't have long lasting marriages at all. In Western civilisation, good marriages, bad marriages and divorce are just as common to religious people, as they are to atheists as well.
How your relationship/s work out depend upon you, who you're with and what happens to you both along the way and how you both deal with that along the way. The best you can do, is at the time do the best you can do. If it works out, great! If it doesn't, at least you've tried your best.