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post #76 of 83 (permalink) Old 01-26-2017, 10:07 PM
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I spent years of my life hooking up with random people, trying for serious relationships, and then not trying for serious relationships, just having "fun" the whole way. In the end it has damaged me in my marriage, not as much me but mostly my wife.... and therefore me. I foolishly thought that the "sex only within marriage" was overrated. But in the end it really is essential.
Can you elaborate on how your past promiscuity affected / harmed your marriage / wife?

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Can you elaborate on how your past promiscuity affected / harmed your marriage / wife?
There was a particular event when I hooked up with a long time friend of mine whom I had always had a sexual attraction to when my wife and I were in the very early stages of dating (had not yet determined our status as a couple and monogamous) and when she finally asked me about what happened between us four months later, I was honest to her as I felt I should be. Since then it has become a conflict that she still brings up even several years after it happened, and despite the fact that it was almost a year before we got married. My honesty to her has bit me in the a@@. She thinks I should have told her right at that moment even thought we had not yet established boundaries and mutual friends brought this specific person around later and I invited my wife to the event to show her that nothing scandalous was going on yet it only threw fuel on the fire.
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Still harping on that reference, eh? CDC data also confirms. Now, where is YOUR "proof" that teen abortions are increasing? You've got nothing, I'm sure. All you can do is put down other ideas, but can't support your own.

https://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/data_stats/

The abortion rate for 2013 was 12.5 abortions per 1,000

The abortion rate for 2000 was 16 per 1,000 women

The abortion rate for 1990 was 24 per 1,000

The trend is clearly down.

http://www.latimes.com/science/scien...210-story.html

From a few years ago, but reports on CDC data - teen pregnancy and abortion rates are clearly down.

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Still harping on that reference, eh? CDC data also confirms. Now, where is YOUR "proof" that teen abortions are increasing? You've got nothing, I'm sure. All you can do is put down other ideas, but can't support your own.

https://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/data_stats/

The abortion rate for 2013 was 12.5 abortions per 1,000

The abortion rate for 2000 was 16 per 1,000 women

The abortion rate for 1990 was 24 per 1,000

The trend is clearly down.

Abortion falls to record low in the U.S., CDC says - LA Times

From a few years ago, but reports on CDC data - teen pregnancy and abortion rates are clearly down.
As I said before better birth control has a lot to do with that. You think that means we are more virtuous or something?

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For Christians, the only "taboo" within marriage is a sexless marriage. Got also forbids gatekeeping. Every sexual act within marriage is a beautiful living parable of the ultimate fulfillment of the gospel, the union of Christ and his church
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I spent years of my life hooking up with random people, trying for serious relationships, and then not trying for serious relationships, just having "fun" the whole way. In the end it has damaged me in my marriage, not as much me but mostly my wife.... and therefore me. I foolishly thought that the "sex only within marriage" was overrated. But in the end it really is essential.
It is vitally important. Those who have had more partners are more likely to cheat I recently read, and end up divorced as well.
I know couples who deeply regret not waiting, and others who are so thankful they did wait. Its well worth using that self control for a time.
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Still harping on that reference, eh? CDC data also confirms. Now, where is YOUR "proof" that teen abortions are increasing? You've got nothing, I'm sure. All you can do is put down other ideas, but can't support your own.

https://www.cdc.gov/reproductivehealth/data_stats/

The abortion rate for 2013 was 12.5 abortions per 1,000

The abortion rate for 2000 was 16 per 1,000 women

The abortion rate for 1990 was 24 per 1,000

The trend is clearly down.

Abortion falls to record low in the U.S., CDC says - LA Times

From a few years ago, but reports on CDC data - teen pregnancy and abortion rates are clearly down.
There are still millions of babies killed each year.
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There was a particular event when I hooked up with a long time friend of mine whom I had always had a sexual attraction to when my wife and I were in the very early stages of dating (had not yet determined our status as a couple and monogamous) and when she finally asked me about what happened between us four months later, I was honest to her as I felt I should be. Since then it has become a conflict that she still brings up even several years after it happened, and despite the fact that it was almost a year before we got married. My honesty to her has bit me in the a@@. She thinks I should have told her right at that moment even thought we had not yet established boundaries and mutual friends brought this specific person around later and I invited my wife to the event to show her that nothing scandalous was going on yet it only threw fuel on the fire.
I cant understand that, once you were dating then she would have expected you not to date/have sex with someone else. I can see why she was hurt by that. I can also understand why she reacted badly to you and she meeting up with the OW.
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