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post #1 of 83 (permalink) Old 08-28-2016, 02:19 AM Thread Starter
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There is a taboo with sex in religion. I don't know about you but I love to see married couples lovey-dovey with each other. Boyfriend and girlfriend? Not so much.

I think God reserved sex for marriage. Anyone who wants to be sexual in their marriage is righteous in my eyes (I guess I understand people who don't believe in Christianity). I've met so many Christians who claim to believe in the bible yet go against it. Tell me your experience with sex in marriage and out, whether you are religious or not.

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Tell me your experience with sex in marriage and out, whether you are religious or not.
In my experience, there is no difference. If there are differences, they are due to who you're with.

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Sex in marriage is great. To have sex with a man who is 100% committed to you, who is faithful and who wants intimacy only with you, is the best thing. Casual sex has no worth or meaning for me. Its just completely selfish, using someone else for your physical jollies.
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There is a taboo with sex in religion.
Yes, there is and, it is sad that the "taboo" has caused untold heartache for so many people, today and for centuries into the past.
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I'm a Christian but wasn't until about 26 years of age and married for 2 years.

Before I met my wife, I was with approximately 60 women intimately.

Most experiences were shallow while others were meaningful but I was too shallow to understand.

I never felt fully safe or satisfied until I was with my wife.

Our sex life has been very good and since becoming a Christian, even better. We have always shown affection and it was an oddity in church settings because we appeared to be unique among our Christian acquaintances.

I have found the majority of Christians I know to be sexually constipated and stunted.

There is a lot of bad teaching on sex in marriage and a lack of good in most churches I am familiar with.

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While I do believe that sex outside of marriage is and has always been rather commonplace in society, I do believe in the Christian Biblical precepts that, outside of a marital union, it is deemed to be a sinful act!

But like many other sins, it is not deemed to be one of unforgivable proportions!

After all, a child borne from such an act is just as holy in the eyes of the Heavenly Father as one who was borne into a legitimate marriage!

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I'm a Christian but wasn't until about 26 years of age and married for 2 years.

Before I met my wife, I was with approximately 60 women intimately.

Most experiences were shallow while others were meaningful but I was too shallow to understand.

I never felt fully safe or satisfied until I was with my wife.

Our sex life has been very good and since becoming a Christian, even better. We have always shown affection and it was an oddity in church settings because we appeared to be unique among our Christian acquaintances.

I have found the majority of Christians I know to be sexually constipated and stunted.

There is a lot of bad teaching on sex in marriage and a lack of good in most churches I am familiar with.

Mrs. Conan and I blow each others minds regularly for the glory of God.😁
I havent found that at all among the christians I know,and I have heard some excellent christian teaching about the importance of sex in marriage.
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Sex in marriage is great. To have sex with a man who is 100% committed to you, who is faithful and who wants intimacy only with you, is the best thing. Casual sex has no worth or meaning for me. Its just completely selfish, using someone else for your physical jollies.
Definitely agree. Sex was meant to be only for those in a marriage.

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As a devout atheist, religion plays no role in my sexual morality. My ethics, however, are completely accepting of adult, fully consensual sex. Sin does not exist, IMO, only more or less skillful application of compassion and fairness.

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I've never been married. Hence sex for me has always happened outside of the covenant of marriage. I don't think it's practical to wait till marriage to have sex. In my mind, beyond the ceremonial aspect of marriage, I don't quite recognize a difference between a relationship within and outside of marriage. For me the length of time a couple has been together is a better indicator of the seriousness of the relationship as opposed to whether a couple is married or not.

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I havent found that at all among the christians I know,and I have heard some excellent christian teaching about the importance of sex in marriage.
Then you have traveled in far different circles.

There are a couple of good churches on sex education but I haven't found more than a couple.
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Wife and I are not religious. We had some, but very little sex before marriage. If I had been smarter, that would have raised alarms.
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I've never been married. Hence sex for me has always happened outside of the covenant of marriage. I don't think it's practical to wait till marriage to have sex. In my mind, beyond the ceremonial aspect of marriage, I don't quite recognize a difference between a relationship within and outside of marriage. For me the length of time a couple has been together is a better indicator of the seriousness of the relationship as opposed to whether a couple is married or not.
Lots of people do wait for marriage till they have sex. Its well worth it.
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Then you have traveled in far different circles.

There are a couple of good churches on sex education but I haven't found more than a couple.
If you research you will find countless books/courses/dvds and cds about sex in marriage. WE are spoil for choice.
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Lots of people do wait for marriage till they have sex. Its well worth it.
@uhtred: Wife and I are not religious. We had some, but very little sex before marriage. If I had been smarter, that would have raised alarms.


I don't doubt that there are couples who see value in waiting till marriage. This does make me wonder now, I can't recall coming across examples of non-religious couples who preferred sex after marriage.

Any atheists out there who practiced sex only after marriage? If so, what did/do you see as the benefits to waiting till marriage?

@uhtred, you said you and your wife did not have much sex before. Was that by choice?
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