Husband stopped going to church
When I met my husband, he said he was a Christian. If he had said otherwise, we probably never would have gotten together. For about 2 years, as long as we had a church, he went with me (there was a period when we left our church and didn't have one for a while). Then in like May, we had MAJOR problams and the fight lasted about a week.
At that point, he stopped going to church and he refuses to go. He said that he didn't want to go because my mom went to that church, but there are 3 services and it would be easier to go to a different service than her (He wants nothing to do with her at this point). I have asked a million times, I have stopped asking for a while and then just asked a couple times occasionally, I have suggested watching the live stream of the service from home or at least going to events for the young adult group, but he absolutely refuses.
We've been separated for over a month, closer to a month and a half. A LOT of stuff happened and he was planning on filing for divorce. FINALLY, he agreed to work on things and we start counseling on Tuesday. But there are the past issues and now the separation has caused added problems. And from my side, the biggest current problems are 1. He now won't say "I love you" EVER and 2. He STILL won't go to church.
I don't know what to do. Obviously I can't force him and asking every week obviously won't help. So what am I supposed to do? And it's not even just the specific issue of him going to church. His refusal to go to church is affecting other things. Like we're supposed to go to the state fair tomorrow. Since he has some kind of sleep issue where it's REALLY hard to wake himself up or for anyone to wake him up, he said that it would be easiest if I slept over tonight and we went to the fair in the morning, so I'd be there to wake him up. But I already missed curch last week and I don't want to miss it again, so I said I'd go to the early service and then we could go to the fair. But he said he might not wake up in time. So I suggested I come over tonight, then we BOTH go to the early service and then go to the fair. His response was "I'm not going to church." So now we may not get to go to the fair because of this.
And it's not even just like a matter of me respecting his wishes or whatever. He knew how important Christianity and God were to me when we met and I was led to believe it was important to him too. Now he wants to change his mind and that's not fair to me because I was promised a loving, Christian husband. Now what do I do? I can't even talk to him about it because it'll just cause a fight or I'll just get upset and it won't change what he does. I already tried talking to him about the "I love you" thing last night and that didn't go well. I can't wait until we go to counseling, but I don't know if even that will help. I just don't know what to do.