I'm Roman Catholic(I know, yuck) and I didn't have a choice in that. My first wife was also. She dodged church every chance she got. I loved or at least got something out of it along with it being a family tradition I wanted to keep. I never did. Partly because I married the wrong woman and partly because I was not convicted to my goals.
My daughter attended a few years of grade school at our parish school. It was expensive and I couldn't make enough no matter how much I worked. Our son never attended at a Catholic grade school. He knows little about it.
They are all ... Presbyterian? Not sure to tell the truth.
My second wife grew up going to a Presbyterian church. She later changed to Baptist.
I fell away and went back again and again until I was treated harshly about twenty years ago. That was the last time I cared. I gave it all I had from being an altar boy and serving mass on week days during summer vacations from grade school, to volunteering to decorate the church and help with the food bank. I even did some remodeling there, for free.
My second wife and I never attended anything that I can remember. Neither of us cared or just didn't talk about it.
After we broke up, I started going to some non denom services. I liked them too, just like you. I felt more welcome. I helped out folks less fortunate while I was there, by going to their homes and washing or painting things...if I remember correctly.
Well, I did not like the ideas of the preacher as much as I thought, once I was there a while and started listening.
I never did go to another after that, but kept reading the bible and researching for a few years. I still do that from time to time. It's comforting.
My opinion is that you can't know when or if your husband will be exactly what you want, ever. You can only hope and support the decisions he makes that align with your hopes. From there, you compromise until you get close to breaking boundaries. You take serious action when it starts getting close. You definitely let him know what you want before and during marriage. Make it well know to him that you will only do certain things and what your goals are.
Ask him questions. Don't believe everything he says. He loves you and will tell you partly what he wants to do, but not only what he really believes if he was alone, or what he knows he is likely to do. Well, that's my opinion. I can't know what he will think or do. I've just seen it so often, I'm a bit wary when I think some young woman or man will believe through love goggles. I don't want anyone to be blindsided.
I wish I felt differently. Life changes us. Sometimes we are changed for the better and sometimes for the worse.