We don't act the way we do because we are told to, but because we know its the right thing to do. We also know that there is always room for improvement and we want to be better people. Yes there are many truly great and completely trustworthy people who are Christians. I have so many who I would trust completely.
I know very few men who aren't Christians who have good moral values, complete honesty and integrity. I can only think of one right now and that is is my brother.
It takes a very strong man to go against the flow of the worlds standards. A man who is completely honest. Who doesn't look at porn. Who doesn't have sex outside marriage. Who doesn't cheat on his tax returns. Who puts himself out for others. Who always treats others with fairness and decency etc etc.
There are very few men like that.
I know many men that are amazing people of very high value, my ex and current husband, my dad, brothers, co workers (I work for a NFP, charity) extended family etc. Interestingly my best friends husband has just come out as a cheater, he is a so called religious man.
My dad is a silent philanthropist to the tune of a millions of dollars. He has never cheated on his tax (actually I don't know anyone that has) and he employs many people at well above award wages.
All the men I am surrounded by treat others with fairness and decency (and yes also the few religious friends I have do too) being non religious and being a good person are not mutually exclusive.
Being religious does not in any way mean a person has higher values, is less likely to look at porn, cheat on tax returns and it is very naive to think otherwise. Just have a look at what is going on world wide with the church and child sex abuse. How about tax avoidance or misogyny? Religious men, like non religious men are involved in crime, abuse, cheating, porn watching and other vices. Repressed people are capable of the most heinous of actions, this is not only the realm of the non religious.