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post #1 of 157 (permalink) Old 04-06-2017, 07:28 AM Thread Starter
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Does your spouse make you feel like God is real?

Mine does. When I consider his integrity, his character, his commitment to all that is good, it is not a leap to believe there is a force much greater than he is, who inspired all that he is.

I remember attending my parents' 50th wedding anniversary Mass 20 years ago and reflecting, during the Eucharistic prayers, on how much the description of Jesus sounded like Dug. It is the same all loving, all committed spirit.

I also remember a sermon once in which the minister told the husbands present that they are very likely the face of Jesus to their wives. What a responsibility.


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Nope. I'm spiritual, and the told me he also was spiritual when we were dating and engaged, but changed after we got married. Now, he only believe in science because science can be proved. If I mention anything about spirituality, I need to have my thoughts backed up by scientific research for him to take it into account.
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Well, given your user name..... ;-)

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Nope, for exactly the same reasons she doesn't make me think the tooth fairy is real.
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Re: Does your spouse make you feel like God is real?

No. Well, maybe Aphrodite, Venus, Rati, or Aizen Myō-ō. But the difference is that my wife is real - gods are all fictional.

Love is an ideal thing; marriage is a real thing; a confusion of the real with the ideal never goes unpunished. - Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

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I'm really liking all the nonbelievers posting on this thread.
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I'm really liking all the nonbelievers posting on this thread.
While not a 'believer' myself, I do respect those that are. (for the most part)

However, projecting your chosen deity into the personification of your partner is a step too far.
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projecting your chosen deity into the personification of your partner is a step too far.
Couldn't have said it better myself. Sounds almost like brainwashing or something. It's weird.

People don't get a free pass to cheat just because their marriage sucks.

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Mine does. When I consider his integrity, his character, his commitment to all that is good, it is not a leap to believe there is a force much greater than he is, who inspired all that he is.

I remember attending my parents' 50th wedding anniversary Mass 20 years ago and reflecting, during the Eucharistic prayers, on how much the description of Jesus sounded like Dug. It is the same all loving, all committed spirit.

I also remember a sermon once in which the minister told the husbands present that they are very likely the face of Jesus to their wives. What a responsibility.
That is quite a responsibility...

Since my wife is atheist I would say not, although she has said if I gain back the weight I lost 5 years ago I will surely begin to resemble a Buddha.


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However, projecting your chosen deity into the personification of your partner is a step too far.
Says you. For your information, I happen to have quite the grey beard.
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I bet he looks at porn and wacks off to other women. How's that change your perception?
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No but my cat does.
Something very holy about the way the human world seems completely ridiculous to him, he knows what the real meaning of life is and which necessities are most important.

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I also remember a sermon once in which the minister told the husbands present that they are very likely the face of Jesus to their wives. What a responsibility.
This remind me of something a counselor once talked about in our MC. If you put your spouse way up on a pedestal, that's dysfunctional. It's VERY selfish, in fact. No one likes having to try to live up to that kind of responsibility, and it isn't fair or desirable to have such a power inequality in a marriage or to expect your spouse to live up to such an image.

People don't get a free pass to cheat just because their marriage sucks.

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Not even close, in fact I can't imagine a wife that can be much worse (I've read about some here that are close!). About the only thing she hasn't done is cheat on me but at this point I'm not sure it would make difference if she did. In Proverbs 31, it gives a list of the things that a godly wife should do. I'm almost in tears each time I read it now when I realize how far off the mark she is. But hey I'm the one who married her and if I'm still with her, it's all on me.

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