Re: "The Love Dare" anyone else done it/doing it?
Geeez I dont know. Take now, for example. Just got off the phone with him. He often calls from work at night only to argue or fire accusatory questions at me. I ask him how about if we go to an upcoming marriage conference. He said there's no point to those conferences - we already heard the material once (we went 3 yrs ago), so there's no point, he says.
I'm so tired of taking all the initiatives. And I hate how we, as humans, are so driven by reciprocation!! Why?!! Why can't we just give and give and give and be HAPPY with a smile on our face when we're slapped in the face in return? If I could do that, then I could keep plugging along with something like Love Dare, and I could actually get past day 6! But when I'm slammed by hurt from a guy who wants everything easy without making any efforts whatsoever...how can I get up the next day smiling and do Day 7?! Sadly I'm at the point where I don't see any hope. Hope in Christ, yes. Hope in my marriage or my husband (or even myself), no.
He won't agree to go to the conference and then he starts asking me to end the conversation with some word to lift him up. That's just how he is...if you knew him, you would see...so full of himself and always demanding more of me to give to him, without him lifting a finger. I couldnt' even tell you how many love notes I've written him. How almost every day of the week for the past 11+ years I've made him two, often three hot meals, asked him out to coffee, called to say I love you, brought him a gift (yes, Love Dare stuff...even before I read the book), all the while taking the very last place in his life as he puts everyone else first (he's a pastor).
And now I am blabbering on and on because I'm alone, it's late, and the wound is fresh.