04-06-2012, 11:49 PM
Join Date: Mar 2012
| | Wife won't change churches
I met my beautiful wife at this church while being on the praise team, and eventually got married in the same church. The problem is I want to find another church, but my wife doesn't.
I can not get anything out of the services any longer because of the pastor. I am currently the keyboard player for the church and I love doing that, but every practice and on Sunday mornings, it is getting so aggravating and I feel it shouldn't be that way. The pastor is arrogant and loud, and everything has to do with money. "if you want healing, give more money" "are you having problems? then you need to give more money" every Sunday it's another sermon on giving more money and that's on top of the regular sermon ( that is a usually 1 1/2 hours shouting at you) He is not musical at all, but insist that he is the only one to choose the songs we sing. During practice last night he was being his arrogant self, we were practicing a song for this Easter Sunday and were trying to work through a difficult spot, when he came in yelling at us about not knowing the song, and changed the song for Sunday. If we say anything about wanting to do some new songs, he calls us "religious" and says that we don't listen to the voice of God like he does and we just need to follow his lead.
I am so frustrated and I feel that I shouldn't feel that way when it come to Worship. My wife's family all attend this church and she doesn't want to leave, although she is frustrated with the pastor as I am. I just don't know how to handle it right now.