Re: The Head of the House
DH and I aren't religious people, but this is how we do things. It's just how we are naturally, we've had long discussions about what this means.
I'm naturally a quiet and submissive person, I'm not a doormat and I have opinions. I let the opinions be known at the appropriate time. When things were good, he earned the money and I stayed at home. I ask him about money things because I don't handle that. I don't ask if I can go somewhere, but I do let him know if it's something he should know so he doesn't worry.
He isn't doing so well and I want to help him, I'm not going to leave him just because he isn't doing what he thinks that he should be doing. I'm not going to withhold anything from him because he can't fulfill obligations to me. He wants to and he is trying which is all that I need. There was a time when he was a huge jerk and it made me think twice about still giving my all.
I think whomever is capable of being the "head" should be, we don't have to have specific roles anymore. If the woman is earning more money and the man wants to stay at home and take care of things, so be it. Or maybe there isn't just one that is the head..whatever works!
Submission is a strong word and kind of touchy on the surface. I think it's more of giving yourself willingly to each other. Whatever that means to each other, but you should feel so comfortable that it just comes naturally.