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post #61 of 93 (permalink) Old 03-14-2014, 11:58 PM
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Yes, Dear Lord! You have my permission to please just let some good-looking Christian woman get as totally unreligious as she wants to with me!

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Kinky enough that there are often thoughts going through my mind that will forever be kept only between me and God.
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It's not what a lady reveals that makes her sexy it's what she keeps hidden.
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There was a book out not too awfully long ago about Christian Marriage and Sex. I wish that I could remember what it was called. But within those bounds that were espoused in that book, God simply did not intend for us to be "prudes," but much rather, to be fruitful and multiply. And there is a semblance of order and a sense of decorum in which He wants it all done.
Here are some other good Christian sex Books....

1. Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage: Kevin Leman: Books

2. Intended for Pleasure: Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian Marriage: Books

3. Under the Sheets: The Secrets to Hot Sex in Your Marriage

4. The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: (And You Thought Bad Girls Have All the Fun): Books

Personally I'd rather read something like this -written by a Sex therapist...one of my favorites..

Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man: Ian Kerner: Books

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Transform Yourself from "Passion Victim" to Passionista!

In the smash hit "She Comes First", Ian Kerner singlehandedly waged battle against male sexual "ill-cliteracy," and women everywhere benefited from his "viva la vulva" philosophy of female pleasure.

Now, in Passionista, it's time to learn all about what turns men on—and makes them stay on. In this point-by-point, "blow-by-blow" guide, Kerner makes giving as much fun as receiving as he covers every angle of male sexuality, unlocks the secrets of satisfaction, and offers knowledgeable answers to the questions every woman wonders about. His advice is the closest you'll ever come to waking up in a guy's skin and knowing what truly makes him sexually tick.

Written in the same witty, insightful, and utterly readable voice that has made She Comes First and Be Honest—You're Not That Into Him Either so popular, Passionista is the empowered woman's guide to enjoying sex to the fullest—and ensuring that he does the same
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whoa, this is a really old thread. But, I gotta say, this is a common misconception. I am a Christian, and I would role play with my husband and had "dress up" skimpy outfits like a cop, school girl, etc I felt no guilt in that! Mutual masturbation, check. Oral, check. Pretty much the only thing that would be off limits because of my beliefs (and personal morals) would be a threesome. Otherwise, I like me some kink and fantasies.
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Is your wife open to reading books on marital sex from a Christian perspective? That is what changed me. Maybe, if she is open to it, the two of you could spend "devotion time" reading a chapter at a time drawing the two of you closer together. She may learn some new things and also gets to spend time with her Dh.
She doesn't seek those books but has kind of read one I suggested. I don't think that is the main problem. I think handling my own kinkyness is. Whether it's right or wrong and if she does it to please me and how much she actually enjoys it like I do. She does very well actually. Surprisingly so, even though she is not comfortable wih oral or anal etc.
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She doesn't seek those books but has kind of read one I suggested. I don't think that is the main problem. I think handling my own kinkyness is. Whether it's right or wrong and if she does it to please me and how much she actually enjoys it like I do. She does very well actually. Surprisingly so, even though she is not comfortable wih oral or anal etc.
I think it is about baby steps. Sounds like it's working for you two. Try not to judge yourself to harshly about kinkiness. Maybe don't even use that word. It is about what you sexually desire and need.
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Thank you. I suppose I can overact to some peoples negative views instead of putting into action my personal faith between just us two.
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God made sex between a husband and wife. The world twisted it. Their is no shame what a wife desires or what a husband desires.

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The Song of Solomon pretty much lays it out. Married people are supposed to have sex and enjoy it. That book gives a pretty good blueprint of how a married couple should behave toward each other, sexually and romantically, and NOWHERE int is is any prohibition on any kind of position, equipment, costumes, etc. Basically, everything's on the table between a husband and wife, as long as they both enjoy it.

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The Song of Solomon pretty much lays it out. Married people are supposed to have sex and enjoy it. That book gives a pretty good blueprint of how a married couple should behave toward each other, sexually and romantically, and NOWHERE int is is any prohibition on any kind of position, equipment, costumes, etc. Basically, everything's on the table between a husband and wife, as long as they both enjoy it.
Great point!!! I have often told myself If God took the time to write a whole book on married sex, it must be very important.

The so very frustrating thing is that the church raises us, especially young women, to resist and say no....but then fails us at the altar when we are suppose to go from "NO" to "HO" for our DH's.......a woman cannot just change overnight...even amongst the Christian girlfriends I have it's all about piety and good works, none of them would ever make a comment or have a discussion about sex....it is STILL so TABOO......I as a Christian woman feel very alone on this issue...I have even lost a girlfriend over topics about married sex.....she told me I was to worldly for performing oral on hubs.....
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Depends a lot on your denomination, and specific congregation in some cases. I grew up in a church also that taught that sex is dirty, evil, & gross, and that you should save it for the one you really love (ha, ha). The church i'm attending now has a very much different take on it and is very pro-marriage and pro-sex (marital sex, anyway).

My wife grew up catholic, but was never really devout. We did not save ourselves for marriage. Even though we both grew up in churches that didn't exactly preach from Song of Solomon much, we were both fortunate enough to not end up with a lot of religious baggage. Our baggage is entirely secular.

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Thank you Fozzy. We are Lutheran. I was raised VERY strict which didn't help either. Maybe it is just my church but there is no support for marital sexuality, let alone female sexuality. I have had to change my character and views myself through outside reading from Christian authors.
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Thank you Fozzy. We are Lutheran. I was raised VERY strict which didn't help either. Maybe it is just my church but there is no support for marital sexuality, let alone female sexuality. I have had to change my character and views myself through outside reading from Christian authors.
Lutheran? Missouri Synod or the American Evangelical?

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