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post #76 of 93 (permalink) Old 03-25-2014, 01:13 AM
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Thank you Fozzy. We are Lutheran. I was raised VERY strict which didn't help either. Maybe it is just my church but there is no support for marital sexuality, let alone female sexuality. I have had to change my character and views myself through outside reading from Christian authors.
I'd encourage you to find a church that values marriage, and not just pre-marital chastity. I think one of the areas that MANY churches let down their congregations in is that they focus their efforts on making sure people know what the right thing to do is right up until the point that you say "I do", then you're on your own. As everyone here well knows, marriage can be exceedingly difficult, and having a church that recognizes that and will help support its married parishioners can be a great service.

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I think it varies from person to person and what their church taught etc. My husband and I both were raised pretty conservative. He has had alot of guilt in the past, particularly early in our relationship about kinky sex stuff (fantasies, anal, all the normal kinky stuff) but has loosened up a bit. I've always enjoyed sex and what I liked and I don't really care about what my religion had to say. I know lots of women in the Christian circles who would never try anal, mutual masturbation, or roleplaying with their spouses because it's lust, or sodomy or whatever. I think if people want to still believe in no premarital sex that's their choice, but anything should go in marriage. People shouldn't have guilt having fun with their partners. I'm no longer Christian (I believe in God) but no longer devout or anything. I think my hubby still has guilt that we had sex before we were married. I feel like alot of churches inadvertently shame sex so much that even when you're married it sticks with you.
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I'm a born again Christian, and so is my husband of six years.

As others have said,I can't speak for everyone, but for us:

- Anal no way
- Mutual masturbation fine
- Oral fine
- Threesomes no way
- Role plays don't interest us personally, but I have had certain "types" of men who turn me on. But it's not something I would want to bring into our sex life in terms of fantasy or role play, because I feel it would be using my husbands body to lust after something or someone else when I shod be enjoying intimacy with him. That's my belief, but others may feel differently.

I was wondering if you could share why you are asking this? Is the hyperthetical situation a real one, or do you have a Christian gal on your radar? If so, it may be worth noting that in principle, Christians would typically only consider Christians for romantic relationships.

I hope my asking this doesn't offend you, but I also wanted to ask if you are trying to find out if the born again Christian scene is a potential pool of repressed nymphos who are down for it. Not saying you are asking for that reason, but I have met visiting men at my old church who I made effort to talk to and welcome them to the church, only to find out they were there to meet horny girls. Lol I have found myself in some very strange situations in church with visiting men.
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Some make a lot of judgments about what the church teaches. What if the church was inconsistent with the Word of God concerning right and wrong sexual behavior inside of marriage? Would it matter to you? Well it would if they were imposing upon your marriage a burden not meant to bare. Say the Bible was liberating to your sex life within your marriage yet you functioned under the premise that you didnít care if it did or didnít. Would that not be silly? Say then the Bible condemned some of the things you do? What would you do about that how would you feel? It is important to know what the church believes, yes. But it is vital to know what the Bible says about your bedroom for the purpose of living in the freedom of worship. Without that knowledge you are guessing, acting in ignorance, and missing out on a tremendous blessing in your marriage.
We may say that some things are personal preference. But all things are either right or wrong biblically speaking. That is, I can say that I do not like that sexual practice and so we do not do it. But does the Bible condemn it? And if it does not would that affect my practice of that particular sex act? On the other hand suppose I loved and practiced one thing that the Scriptures condemn? Would I give it up upon learning abut such behavior? What is worse, practicing sex without knowing what Godís Word has to say about it or simply not caring one way or the other what it does say, or not say?
I think most would be amazed at how few but powerful the sexual regulations are within marriage.


Consequently "Born-Agains", because that is what the OP called them, are not extremely free to be "Kinky". They are extremely free to be free.
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Im a recovering B.A. Baptist. I'm a horndog and love kinky sex.

As far as two MARRIED people are concerened, the Bible gives no specific guidelines or taboos as to what a married, consenting, adult couple do in the privacy of their bedroom.

I thinkonce married, God could care less of what goes on in the bedroom and leaves his kids to our their own devices. It is just not that big of a deal to Him in the grand scheme of the universe.
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Im a recovering B.A. Baptist. I'm a horndog and love kinky sex.

As far as two MARRIED people are concerened, the Bible gives no specific guidelines or taboos as to what a married, consenting, adult couple do in the privacy of their bedroom.

I thinkonce married, God could care less of what goes on in the bedroom and leaves his kids to our their own devices. It is just not that big of a deal to Him in the grand scheme of the universe.
Exactly. He has bigger fish to fry.

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Im a recovering B.A. Baptist. I'm a horndog and love kinky sex.

As far as two MARRIED people are concerened, the Bible gives no specific guidelines or taboos as to what a married, consenting, adult couple do in the privacy of their bedroom.

I thinkonce married, God could care less of what goes on in the bedroom and leaves his kids to our their own devices. It is just not that big of a deal to Him in the grand scheme of the universe.
Contrary to what you two fellows hold as truth the Bible has a lot to say about sex marriage including the following.

1. Marriage is to be free of immorality and adultery, Heb. 13:14.
2. Husbands and wives are not to withhold sex from one another except in mutual agreement for reason of prayer, (1 Cor. 7:5). This would also indicate that sex during a wifeís period is not an issue and completely permissible in Godís eyes.
3. etc...

God does not fry fish and does care about the intimate details of our lives.

Recovery from the Baptist church or continuance in ignorance?

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Contrary to what you two fellows hold as truth the Bible has a lot to say about sex marriage including the following.

1. Marriage is to be free of immorality and adultery, Heb. 13:14.
2. Husbands and wives are not to withhold sex from one another except in mutual agreement for reason of prayer, (1 Cor. 7:5). This would also indicate that sex during a wifeís period is not an issue and completely permissible in Godís eyes.
3. etc...

God does not fry fish and does care about the intimate details of our lives.

Recovery from the Baptist church or continuance in ignorance?

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Wow..

A little angry are we?
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Contrary to what you two fellows hold as truth the Bible has a lot to say about sex marriage including the following.

1. Marriage is to be free of immorality and adultery, Heb. 13:14.
2. Husbands and wives are not to withhold sex from one another except in mutual agreement for reason of prayer, (1 Cor. 7:5). This would also indicate that sex during a wifeís period is not an issue and completely permissible in Godís eyes.
3. etc...

God does not fry fish and does care about the intimate details of our lives.

Recovery from the Baptist church or continuance in ignorance?

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The Bible does talk about sex but Bandit and Fozzy are right.

BTW if God doesn't fry fish, what does he do with them?
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Re: How kinky are Born-Agains??

" Marriage is to be free of immorality and adultery"

Care to expound on where it details what is immoral in an intimate marital relationship or do you just want to share what you believe it is?
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" Marriage is to be free of immorality and adultery"

Care to expound on where it details what is immoral in an intimate marital relationship or do you just want to share what you believe it is?
I'm guessing the scripture she meant to refer to was Hebrews 13:4 which states "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral."

Adultery is self evident and the "sexually immoral" bit is the Greek word porneŪa. It means "prostitution" but is used in the New Testament as a term for certain sexual sins in Leviticus which, in addition to adultery (defined as wife having sex with male other than husband), include bestiality, male homosexuality, incest, and temple prostitution.
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Contrary to what you two fellows hold as truth the Bible has a lot to say about sex marriage including the following.

1. Marriage is to be free of immorality and adultery, Heb. 13:14.
2. Husbands and wives are not to withhold sex from one another except in mutual agreement for reason of prayer, (1 Cor. 7:5). This would also indicate that sex during a wifeís period is not an issue and completely permissible in Godís eyes.
3. etc...

God does not fry fish and does care about the intimate details of our lives.

Recovery from the Baptist church or continuance in ignorance?

CAN52



I have no problem with those listed above. I donít think anyone is saying that adultery and withholding sex is ok, who are you arguing with?




You asking bandit if he is ďÖcontinuance in ignorance?Ē seems rather condescending. Why did you ask him that?


Actually Bandit gave a very good answer on this issue, see below:


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So essentially, the Bible deals with sex by basically saying it is reserved for married people. That's it. There are no boundaries listed in the Bible which limit the type of sex a husband and wife can have.
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Thanks Blunt. Forgot I posted that.

Seriously, except for sodomy, bestiality, homosexuality/lesbianism and rape, the Bible has no written expressed guidleines for what a married man and woman can or cannot do in the privacy of their bedroom, as long as they are honoring and loving one another and God at all times, privately and publicly.
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