What's my purpose in life? 39 yr old female, stb divorced, no kids [crisis of faith] - Page 2 - Talk About Marriage
Relationships and Spirituality The place to look for faith based solutions.

User Tag List

 40Likes
Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
post #16 of 45 (permalink) Old 02-14-2013, 10:05 PM
Member
 
moxy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2012
Posts: 2,885
What's my purpose in life? 39 yr old female, stb divorced, no kids [crisis of f

Of course, if you are searching for romance, I'd say go for it! Not everyone has the same hang-ups as me and I spoke from what made sense to me. Personally, DDay scared me away from real intimacy (don't trust my judgement when feelings are involved, anymore) and also from romance (which feels false) and so I can't think about that possibility without feeling like I've been buried alive (these days anyway). If it crept up on me unaware, Id be less likely to run from it. Betrayal messes some people up for a while.


"He who accepts evil without protesting against it is really cooperating with it." -Martin Luther King, Jr.

"“We first crush people to the earth, & then claim the right of trampling on them forever, because they are prostrate." -Lydia Maria Child.

Last edited by moxy; 02-14-2013 at 10:14 PM.
moxy is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
post #17 of 45 (permalink) Old 02-14-2013, 10:10 PM Thread Starter
Member
 
dontpanic's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: US
Posts: 70
Re: What's my purpose in life? 39 yr old female, stb divorced, no kids [crisis of fai

Chopsy, thanks for your support

Quote:
Originally Posted by Chopsy View Post
I never had a proper career, which seems pathetic at my age (48), so am currently unemployed thinking who the hell is ever going to hire me.
The best quote that I have heard about this is: “Your vocation in life is where your greatest joy meets the world's greatest need.“ (Frederick Buechner, theologian)

Quote:
Originally Posted by Chopsy View Post
It sucks. and I am so depressed I would never get out of bed if it wasn't for my dogs.
LOL! all i have been talking about for months is getting a dog. the issue is, I don't know if I could handle such a huge 24/7 responsibility all by myself. We had a dog when i was little, but my dad took care of walking it and my mom fed it. i really want to spend time at some local shelters so I can get a better idea if its a good choice for me. I was even thinking of fostering so that I could try it out before I get one of my own. i don't really know what kind of dog would be good for me.


Quote:
Originally Posted by Chopsy View Post
I don't know what I believe anymore. I lean more the Buddhist way of things.
I don't know much about Buddhism. Do they think there's any point to this endless hamster wheel of life?

Quote:
Originally Posted by Chopsy View Post
I'm sorry you're struggling but I do believe your destiny and mine MUST be bigger than this. as 2nutnuf said, we haven't been hit by a bus yet. You (and I) have to find meaning in ourselves and the lives we make. Although it may not feel like it, and I understand if you think this is a load of crap, you have an opportunity to remake your life and become the person you always wanted to be. Keep posting. wish I could offer some magical solution. just keep getting up and doing what makes you happy.
I'm rooting for you too. Hang in there.

You only live once?
False.
You live every day.
You only die once.
dontpanic is offline  
post #18 of 45 (permalink) Old 02-14-2013, 10:30 PM
Member
 
2ntnuf's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: PA
Posts: 13,997
Re: What's my purpose in life? 39 yr old female, stb divorced, no kids [crisis of fai

Thanks Moxy. I was curious because I've heard that before and didn't understand. I also wasn't ready till now to hear the explanation.

Thanks for letting me get that explanation, dontpanic.

"I'm significant!! Screamed the dust speck." - Bill Watterson

"And this, too, shall pass away."
2ntnuf is offline  
 
post #19 of 45 (permalink) Old 02-14-2013, 10:37 PM Thread Starter
Member
 
dontpanic's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: US
Posts: 70
Re: What's my purpose in life? 39 yr old female, stb divorced, no kids [crisis of f

Moxy, thank you for your post.

Quote:
Originally Posted by moxy View Post
I'm sorry you're in this situation. I sympathize a lot with what you've said.

Your purpose in life is to enjoy what you have in front of you; that's what I think. God gave you both gifts and obstacles and it's kind of like being given a set of crafts objects but also a set of constraints and then having a pile of time to make whatever you can out of it.
I just got an image of a crafting reality show where contestants are given strange items to transform into something beautiful in a limited amount of time. i love it! reality tv as an analogy for life

Quote:
Originally Posted by moxy View Post
You've done a marvelous job of being the good girl assisting everyone around you and now it's your chance to make something fun and lovely, too.
That is part of my problem. i felt that I always tried really hard and succeeded to some degree to help those around me, but it wasn't enough. I couldn't save my parents from their poverty and bad life choices. I couldn't save my mother from starving herself to death. i couldn't save my brother from dying (there was medical error involved, but (of course) nothing we can make $ on.) I couldn't save my marriage and if I beleive half of what my husband says managed to miss the fact that he was desperately unhappy for 10 years. Now that I am losing my hub, i feel like I didn't appreciate him and enjoy him enough when i had him. He was kind to me and i took him for granted until he checked out. i feel like one big humongous failure.

Quote:
Originally Posted by moxy View Post
I know you probably feel broken hearted and lost, but you can still have those things you want. You can adopt or freeze some eggs or hire a surrogate or do IVF and have a child of your own. You could find another partner based on compatibility of ideals rather than romantic love.
Yes, I feel lost and adrift. i thought about IVF, but I really believe that ideally a child needs two parents and i don't think I could handle it alone. I thought about freezing eggs, but it feels like if G-d wanted me to have kids I would have so I shouldn't go crazy with medical technology. I feel like I will never get over my STBXH and have experienced so much pain since he withdrew emotionally from me that i can't even imagine dating again. And when we were 22 and 23, we *did* share ideals along with the romance. The problem was that when push came to shove and reality hit, he believed in those ideals in theory, but couldn't handle them in reality. i am so burned

Quote:
Originally Posted by moxy View Post
You could travel or take up an art or do done kind of service or missionary work. I think you should try and imagine what one thing is that might make you feel good about yourself and start there.
This is an excellent and concrete suggestion. i need to think on it some more to see how to implement it. I did start volunteering with a senior citizen twice a week.

Quote:
Originally Posted by moxy View Post
39 is young enough to have the things you've been traditionally told you ought to have, if you want them. It's also young enough to start over, if you prefer. I'm 35 and feeling a lot of the same things; I gave my husband my best and most reproductively potent years and now Im heartbroken and alone, in a lot if ways. Sometimes it just sucks. No return on the investment kinda feeling, betrayed by what you believed in kinda feeling. But, don't give up. You'll find your purpose if you seek it.
I'm with you. I could have said everything that you described. But in our culture (on TV, media, etc) the focus is on Youth as the ultimate ideal. 40 is ancient - you should get surgery so you don't look your age. I am reading books about midlife and feel better knowing that people can change their lives at age 40 or 50 or 60 and really learn to be happy.

Quote:
Originally Posted by moxy View Post
Can you join a faith group or something like that? Are you seeing a counselor? Hang in there.
I have a rabbi and a synogogue/community. The rabbi gives classes but i have been so blah that I haven't made enough of an effort to attend this winter. I am going to my therapist - she is the only stable thing in my life right now.

Moxy - I really appreciate your kind and thoughtful suggestions. TAM is the only place where I feel that people understand. All of the divorcees that I have met in my community have kids and coparent with their ex. This means that they have something to "show" for 10 or 15 years of marriage. it is typical for them to say, "my marriage was terrible/I hate my ex, but at least I have these wonderful children".

So where I'm coming from is, what if you don't? All I have are my memories and regrets and if-only's...

You only live once?
False.
You live every day.
You only die once.
dontpanic is offline  
post #20 of 45 (permalink) Old 02-14-2013, 11:43 PM
Member
 
moxy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2012
Posts: 2,885
Re: What's my purpose in life? 39 yr old female, stb divorced, no kids [crisis of f

Quote:
Originally Posted by dontpanic View Post
So where I'm coming from is, what if you don't? All I have are my memories and regrets and if-only's...
Me, too, dontpanic. I understand completely.

More on the rest later. I just wanted to say another thing really quickly. We are only open to what we can bear and we cannot get more than we are open to. In order to get big, we do have to take big risks. Sometimes, that is really scary -- especially when having given so much and essentially emotionally starving oneself so that at the low point, there's no help. You won't take risks until you're ready to take them, but you can listen to your soul speaking about what it needs and question whether your reservations about moving toward change is coming from fear, from unreadiness, uncertainty, or just habit.

There's a book I would recommend to you that I read and found useful (along with the Townsend and the "Codependent No More" by Beaty -- I don't know the Fear one that was listed, but I will check it out, too). "The Gifts of Imperfection" by Brene Brown.

I suspect that people like you and me and others of us in this situation who have given a lot to others and gotten basically screwed over in return have possibly been looking to earn love or earn the permission to be free. Maybe, by being good enough a helper to get others settled, we can then earn the right and freedom to take care of ourselves. We put the mask on the kid next to us on the plane before ourselves; in that way, many of us who fall into the codependency zone tend to feel responsible for helping others out of their troubles and don't feel free to get on with our lives or to be selfish until others are taken care of -- and then, we kinda hope that we will all get to happily enjoy good things together. But, we emotionally sacrifice along the way in the hopes of this and we end up not only starving ourselves, emotionally and spiritually, but enabling the weaknesses of others inadvertently because they come to rely on us instead of themselves. I don't know if it is that way for you, but this is what I'm thinking at the moment. Also, I don't think anyone can give us that permission for freedom because it comes from God and by virtue of being alive, we have that permission already, whether others recognize it or not. No matter how much we give or don't give, we still have the same right to freedom of self and we all have a need for love -- it's up to us to figure out how we find it though and many of us find potholes and pitfalls on that path.

It wasn't your job to save your family from their fates. It wasn't your job to keep the marriage afloat, either. You didn't fail any of them. A marriage isn't a thing that you gave to your husband as a gift that you had to maintain, it's a bond that you both built together -- some of which was strong and some of which wasn't. He's claiming that he's unhappy and has been for ten years; well...it wasn't your job to mind-read and figure out how to make him happy and fix it, it was his own job to tell you what the issue was for him so that maybe you could both fix it and he did not. So, he failed you and he failed your marriage on that count. Maybe you had flaws, too. I'm sure you did just as he did because we are all human. However, a marriage is a bond that requires continual energy input. It's like a bank account that needs to be filled or a battery that needs to get charged; you're both beneficiaries, the marriage is one resource available for both parties, and if both don't contribute, there's not going to be enough for both to take. It's not your fault. It's just the way it is right now. So don't blame yourself for not being good enough. You were good enough. You deserve better than you got.

"He who accepts evil without protesting against it is really cooperating with it." -Martin Luther King, Jr.

"“We first crush people to the earth, & then claim the right of trampling on them forever, because they are prostrate." -Lydia Maria Child.

Last edited by moxy; 02-14-2013 at 11:51 PM.
moxy is offline  
post #21 of 45 (permalink) Old 02-15-2013, 12:46 AM
Member
 
Mr Blunt's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2012
Posts: 2,520
Re: What's my purpose in life? 39 yr old female, stb divorced, no kids [crisis of fai

Quote:
Quote of dontpanic
I want to find perspective and forgiveness and peace sooo much. When will it come? I have been praying and striving for so long. I just want to get to acceptance.
You have lost your brother, your mom, and now you are separated or divorced. No wonder your life seems without purpose.

I will tell you little about mu perspective, forgiveness, and Peace then maybe something in my life will help.


Perspective
I did not have much of a perspective at age 39 I just lived life and took advantage of anything that fell my way. I had a full ride to college at age 18, no work just college, even a new car to boot. I had no perspective except the perspective of a teen ager those lives for the moment and excitement and fun was the goal. In my 20s I got a rude awaking as I wound up working in a cotton gin then in machine shop with no heating or cooling and I hated both jobs and worked 12 hours a day, 6 days a week. I had no perspective but God helped me for some reason. After my 30s I got a much better perspective.



Forgiveness
I did not know what true forgiveness was. If I got hurt I would just would run from the hurt. However in my late 30s I could not run. I got hurt, tried the protection mode, then the legal mode, then scarred and humbled, as a last resort I was drawn to seek God. I did not go to some mountain and have a dramatic experience; I just became thirsty for His protection and blessings. I was pliable for a change and did what I thought pleased Him. Failed then got back up and tried again, then failed, got back up, and God saw that I was trying for real.


[U]Peace[/U]
The more I tried to please God the more peace I got. In fact the most peace and assurance I had was when I was in a lot of emotional pain. As the years went by my emotional pain got a lot better but the Peace was not quite as strong
.

Now back to your situation. I am not a shrink so I am just going to guess as to your forgiveness statement. You have done some introspection and feel that you have failed your husband and/or maybe you’re other family members. The fact that you feel that your life seems to have no meaning and that God just is not what you thought He was probably has something to do with it.


All I can tell you is that when I was down God seemed to make His presence felt at times. I have come to value His word after I have made it through some real tough times. I know that it was not me that brought me through my dark days. God let me pursue my own strength and other people that I thought would rescue me and after I got so dejected that I just hung my head in despair then God finally showed up for me. It was not like the red sea parted or the earth shook and I heard a loud voice from the heavens. Things gradually started changing and got a lot better. Nothing real dramatic but just gradual changes that eventually helped me so much. The help that God did has not been weeks or months but decades. In fact they are still with me today.

I think the main issue was that I had to accept whatever God allowed to happen and just hold on to my tiny mustard seed of faith. That was about all I could do. Since you mentioned peace and forgiveness I want to give you a few scriptures that deal with those subjects. Here they are below:


"Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace,
whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee."
-- Isaiah 26:3


I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions for My own sake; and I will not remember your sins. Put Me in remembrance; let us contend together; state your case, that you may be acquitted."
Isaiah 43:25-26



"The Lord our God is merciful and forgiving, even though we have rebelled against him."
Daniel 9:9


"As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us."
Psalm 103:12


Hebrews 11:6
But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him



Dontpanic
Your God of Abraham, Issac, and Jacob is also my God. He is such a good God and wants us to:


Matthew 22:37
New International Version (©1984)
Jesus replied: "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.
'

I also believe that Jesus is the son of God whom God raised from the grave on the third day.
Mr Blunt is offline  
post #22 of 45 (permalink) Old 02-15-2013, 04:40 PM
Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2012
Posts: 147
Re: What's my purpose in life? 39 yr old female, stb divorced, no kids [crisis of f

Quote:
Originally Posted by dontpanic View Post
I totally relate to this. Me and hub were both virgins when we got married.

I haven't read your story, but I'm sure you know that you need to leave to save yourself, your kid, and your sanity. I know it is not so easy to do.

You make me simultaneously want to come over to your house and help you leave, while also interviewing you about your skills and stregths so that you can choose a career and restart your life with your son.

Wish I knew how.

But you know you can't quit because otherwise the PoS you married will win. If you stay put your son will be raised in an unhealthy environment. Your son needs you so it gives you a reason to live. I'm jealous.

Thanks ChknNoodle. I really appreciate your moral support. There's nothing like getting divorced as you approach 40 and midlife crisis hits.

I am sending you (((hugs))) and stregth to move on to a better place. Thank you again for sharing.
Thank you for your thoughtful, detailed and encouraging responses.
ChknNoodleSoup is offline  
post #23 of 45 (permalink) Old 02-16-2013, 12:44 AM
Banned
 
Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Wild blue yonder
Posts: 4,760
Re: What's my purpose in life? 39 yr old female, stb divorced, no kids [crisis of fai

Okay, I'm not Jewish, but I'm quite fond of your God. The God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.

So why are you here? You are here to glorify God. Same reason we are all here. How do you do that? Heck if I know. Do you still seek Him? Do you talk to him daily? Not with lofty sounding prayers but with crying, sobbing, pleading, nose running anguish kind of prayers? Have you shouted at Him? Have you completely thrown yourself on His mercy?

I was at a very low point in my life. I won't go into how low but it was VERY low. I did all of the above and though the answer didn't come overnight, the answer did come. Not the ultimate answer to life, the universe, and everything (yes I noticed you have the answer already) but the answer to whether or not I should continue. And I did. And life has become amazing because I gave up and threw myself on God's mercy.

I'd like to recommend a book to you. You can buy it or you can download it for free. It's called, When I Don't Desire God by John Piper. You can get it here:
When I Don't Desire*God by*John Piper How to Fight for Joy - Desiring God

Shalom.
sandc is offline  
post #24 of 45 (permalink) Old 02-16-2013, 03:01 AM
Member
 
Mr Blunt's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2012
Posts: 2,520
Re: What's my purpose in life? 39 yr old female, stb divorced, no kids [crisis of fai

Quote:
Quote of Sandc
So why are you here? You are here to glorify God. Same reason we are all here. How do you do that? Heck if I know
Sandc is right! I do not know all the ways to glorify God but one is to SEEK him and another is to OBEY Him, and a third is to just hold on to your faith in Him.

Quote:
Quote of Sandc
And life has become amazing because I gave up and threw myself on God's mercy.
That looks like Sandc did SEEK, did OBEY, and held on to his faith that God would have mercy

Matthew 22:37
New International Version (©1984)
Jesus replied: "'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.'


Sandc has said something that is really true. However, I do have a hard time always glorifying God. I either get bogged down with my troubles or get caught up in my pleasures. When the troubles get real serious I remember God real quick.

What SandC said really is one of the themes of Job. I am a very far cry from Job but that does not change the truth as to what one of our purposes is here on earth.


Dontpanic, I actually see you glorifying God. You are in a lot of pain and despair yet you come to this forum seeking spiritual help. That means that you are holding on to your mustard seed of faith. I know it is not popular but pain is part of life and can be used to drive us to God and a deeper faith. That is when we prove our faith


As to how do I cope with a loss of faith, I struggle a lot, then when I get to the fork in the road, I tell my self that i am going to cast my lot with God. I do not feel like it, I tell myself to just hold on as time can make things more clear and better, and I remind myself that faith is not having my troubles taken away immediately but either accepting them or keeping alive the hope that my troubles will be worked out for good in the end.

Finally, I remember God’s answer about building faith; “Faith cometh by hearing”

I never used to like to hear things like sandc and I have said but after being so shaken up in life to the point of despair, I found that God was my only hope. I thought that I could handle it, then I thought my friends and money could handle it, and when I was defeated on all fronts, I finally gave God a shot. Thank God He is so understanding of a doubting Thomas!
Mr Blunt is offline  
post #25 of 45 (permalink) Old 02-16-2013, 09:55 PM
Member
 
debster's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Canada
Posts: 95
Re: What's my purpose in life? 39 yr old female, stb divorced, no kids [crisis of fai

Quote:
Originally Posted by dontpanic View Post
I truly do not know what G-d was thinking in putting me on this earth. I know that I have friends and neighbors and family that care about me and support me. But I feel aimless - as if the dissolution of my marriage has set me completely adrift. The plan that I had for my life didn't pan out and I don't have a Plan B.

I just plain don't know what to do anymore. I feel like I have tried my hardest my entire life to be a "good girl", be kind, do the right thing, be a good wife and the payoff is that I am now alone and unfulfilled. I can't understand how this happened to my life and what I am supposed to do for the next 39 years.
Quote:
Originally Posted by dontpanic View Post
I am seeking the input of others who believe in God/Jesus/Mohammad/Higher Power (or whatever you call the spiritual force that runs the world) as to how you cope with a loss of faith when your entire life turns upside down and you're not sure what the point is anymore.

I also *really* don't want to hear that I should count my blessings and stop complaining because so-and-so has it much worse than I do, e.g. has cancer, was molested, is poor/blind/paralyzed etc. etc. and is coping with it all with a smile. Clearly, I know all this objectively, but it doesn't help me cope with my personal pain.

Thank you for listening,
--dontpanic
First, let me offer my support while you are going through this difficult time to find meaning and happiness in your life.

Recently, this was posted in our Church bulletin, which I found helpful.

Why does God
permit suffering?
A. The presence of suffering in the world is a mystery
that we will not fully understand until the final
judgment, but Holy Scripture and the teaching of
the Church can shed some light on it. Consider the
following points:
(1) While God is not the cause of evil and suffering, He
permits these afflictions in order to draw some good
out of them. For instance, out of the suffering and
death of Jesus came eternal salvation. If Jesus did not
die on the cross, we could not get to heaven.
(2) In his Apostolic Letter On the Christian Meaning of
Human Suffering, Pope John Paul II said that
“suffering is present in the world in order to release
love, in order to give birth to works of love toward
neighbour, in order to transform the whole of human
civilization into a civilization of love.” Thus suffering
can be beneficial if it stirs us in a spirit of compassion,
love, and sacrifice toward others. This has been
clearly evidenced in the out-pouring of support for the
people suffering from the aftermath of natural
disasters by the people of this Parish, and indeed the
whole world.
(3) Patient suffering can prepare us for the life to come.
If we suffer with Christ, says St. Paul, we will be
“glorified with him. I consider the sufferings of the
present to be as nothing compared with the glory to
be revealed in us” (Romans 8:17-18).

While I realize you are not Christian, I thought the second point speaks to you from what you have described of being a natural caregiver.

And especially since you have done so much already, being obedient and caring of others, being human, it is only natural to want to say "It is enough, I'm tired or jaded". Sometimes when we are just over the top with everything, we just want to give up all our faith, because we see no point. However, then we realize, there is nothing in our current life to cling to, except our faith. Now is the time to dig in so deep. Initially to help with personal pain, followed by a time for growth and renewal. Don't turn your back on this opportunity.

While we cannot know what plans God has in store for you, I think you are right that your purpose is not complete. Can you put your trust in him to lead and show you the way? Can you obtain any solace or even motivation by thinking, maybe he has even bigger plans for you than what you previously aspired to? Let this guide your prayers, but don't give in to ego, and say thy will be done. Give over to him completely, but also be prepared to listen.

Been there, done that, now wearing the T-shirt {Big Hugs}

debster is offline  
post #26 of 45 (permalink) Old 02-17-2013, 02:50 PM
Banned
 
Join Date: Sep 2012
Posts: 158
Re: What's my purpose in life? 39 yr old female, stb divorced, no kids [crisis of fai

Quote:
i don't really know what kind of dog would be good for me.
well, if you are anything like me, and judging from your handle/avatar you are, You should get a coli/lab mix...

And maybe go reread the hitchhikers guide... You dont need a direction.
FryFish is offline  
post #27 of 45 (permalink) Old 02-17-2013, 06:26 PM Thread Starter
Member
 
dontpanic's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: US
Posts: 70
Re: What's my purpose in life? 39 yr old female, stb divorced, no kids [crisis of fai

Thank you all so much for your responses, insights and encouragement. I need to re-read and think over all everyone has said before I respond, but in the meantime - THANK YOU!

You only live once?
False.
You live every day.
You only die once.
dontpanic is offline  
post #28 of 45 (permalink) Old 02-21-2013, 10:36 AM
Member
 
Chopsy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: UK
Posts: 754
Re: What's my purpose in life? 39 yr old female, stb divorced, no kids [crisis of fai

Thinking of you today dont panic. Hugs
Chopsy is offline  
post #29 of 45 (permalink) Old 02-21-2013, 10:46 AM Thread Starter
Member
 
dontpanic's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: US
Posts: 70
Quote:
Originally Posted by Chopsy View Post
Thinking of you today dont panic. Hugs
Thanks, Chopsy. I appreciate it.
Posted via Mobile Device
dontpanic is offline  
post #30 of 45 (permalink) Old 02-23-2013, 12:58 PM
Member
 
Decorum's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Kentucky
Posts: 2,016
Re: What's my purpose in life? 39 yr old female, stb divorced, no kids [crisis of fai

Me too
Posted via Mobile Device
Decorum is online now  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Options

Register Now



In order to be able to post messages on Talk About Marriage, you must first register. Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.

Important! Your username will be visible to the public next to anything you post and could show up in search engines like Google. If you are concerned about anonymity, PLEASE choose a username that will not be recognizable to anyone you know.

User Name:
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.

Password:


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:
OR

Log-in









Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



Thread Tools Search this Thread
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search



Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Help me, please! Need new life purpose. crisis1008 General Relationship Discussion 27 03-04-2012 05:59 AM
losing faith in the female species Enigma77 The Men's Clubhouse 24 02-19-2012 08:06 PM
Her confusion/crisis of faith... RandomDude Relationships and Spirituality 9 10-13-2011 12:07 PM
Female Mid Life Crisis KRinOnt Physical & Mental Health Issues 12 11-01-2010 05:11 AM

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

 
For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome