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Forum: Going Through Divorce or Separation 07-31-2012, 10:08 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 320
Posted By tiptoe1969
Re: Strength and consistency

Yes. I have exposed the affair to everyone. (OW husband, boss, family, kids, etc.) It did nothing except OW husband left her and now she has nothing but to hang onto my husband.

Strange thing...
Forum: Going Through Divorce or Separation 07-31-2012, 12:10 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 320
Posted By tiptoe1969
Strength and consistency

My husband has been having an EA/PA for close to one year now. We had gone back and forth with ideas of reconciliation within the year but to no avail he is still in the fog and can't stop his...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 07-03-2012, 04:48 PM
Replies: 479
Views: 30,404
Posted By tiptoe1969
Re: A cheater's perspective - 4 weeks past D-Day

I was the one to file the divorce after the year long struggle with his affair. I love my husband but I can't be treated without respect and no consequences on his part for the affair. I will never...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 07-01-2012, 01:44 PM
Replies: 479
Views: 30,404
Posted By tiptoe1969
Re: A cheater's perspective - 4 weeks past D-Day

I also wanted to add that what you are doing is exactly what I want from my husband. I am not a mindreader but I do actually feel he is coming out of the fog and feeling the same way you feel.

I...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 07-01-2012, 01:07 PM
Replies: 479
Views: 30,404
Posted By tiptoe1969
Re: A cheater's perspective - 4 weeks past D-Day

Finally read through the 23 pages on this thread. Your story seems to hit home to me. I am reacting very similarly to your wife. We have been separated(he got an apartment about 2 miles away) for...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 06-29-2012, 01:29 PM
Replies: 29
Views: 1,308
Posted By tiptoe1969
Re: What else can I do now?

I am not sure if you have an Iphone or other but I found the ATT family GPS does not work as well as Find Friends application (this app is free too).
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 06-28-2012, 01:16 PM
Replies: 13
Views: 802
Posted By tiptoe1969
Re: 180 working!!

Thanks all for your feedback and insight on his text message. It is always nice to hear from others looking in cuz when you are in it you don't see as clearly.

I decided not to meet. I am not...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 06-27-2012, 08:44 PM
Replies: 13
Views: 802
Posted By tiptoe1969
Re: 180 working!!

Thanks for the advice. I feel confident but because of my love for him i may not be able to maintain my emotional detachment. I guess this will be a test of my true strength and confidence. I...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 06-27-2012, 07:24 PM
Replies: 13
Views: 802
Posted By tiptoe1969
180 working!!

Husband and I are now separated after 1 year of his indecisiveness in regards to cutting it off with the OW. I decided to file the divorce papers and he has been served. He has found an apartment...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 06-12-2012, 01:09 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 645
Posted By tiptoe1969
Re: Acceptance

LoveWife- you hit it right on. When he is with her, he misses me. When he is with me he misses her. No impulse control!!! That is why I need to shut that door and lock it. He think he is doing...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 06-12-2012, 09:28 AM
Replies: 11
Views: 645
Posted By tiptoe1969
Re: Acceptance

Definitely going to take your advice in going dark. So far so good. I have already figured out what triggers my bad days. It is getting text messages from him telling me he is sorry and to take...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 06-11-2012, 09:25 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 645
Posted By tiptoe1969
Acceptance

I found out about husband's affair nearly one year ago. For the past year he has been vacillating between me and the OW. I would kick him out and he comes back in a couple of weeks wanting to...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-29-2012, 12:40 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 872
Posted By tiptoe1969
Re: Enough is Enough

It is easier said than done. When children are involved so many emotions come into play. You hope that he has sincerely changed this time. I felt if I could only make him accountable for his...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-28-2012, 10:28 PM
Replies: 15
Views: 975
Posted By tiptoe1969
Re: Obsessed with OW

WoW Jibril:-) that is the wakeup call I needed. All of you are right and I just need to get my confidence back up after he has shattered it to pieces. I know who I am and what I have. I have...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-28-2012, 01:53 PM
Replies: 15
Views: 975
Posted By tiptoe1969
Re: Obsessed with OW

Complexity you are right. I want to punish him but I guess his punishment will be my happiness. I am too anxious to see them fall.
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-28-2012, 11:06 AM
Replies: 15
Views: 975
Posted By tiptoe1969
Obsessed with OW

I know the marriage is over. But I am so obssessed in knowing and wanting that my husband and the OW are miserable. I know the statistics of relationships from an affair are really low but I can't...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-28-2012, 10:18 AM
Replies: 8
Views: 872
Posted By tiptoe1969
Enough is Enough

Well, I had taken my husband back 4 times (he would leave for a couple of weeks, contact me and come back for a month). I made it clear that if he contacted her again I would file the divorce...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 02-02-2012, 09:23 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 555
Posted By tiptoe1969
Re: Books for the unfaithful man...suggestions?

I also just found a series on OWN TV called "Unfaithful:Stories of Betrayal". The second season premiere is on this Feb. 4. This is a good show in which both BS and WS are interviewed and feeling...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 02-02-2012, 09:19 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 555
Posted By tiptoe1969
Re: Books for the unfaithful man...suggestions?

I thought a good book which categorizes affairs and seems more focused on the unfaithful spouse was "When Good People have Affairs; Inside the Hearts and Minds of People in Two Relationships"
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 01-09-2012, 08:05 PM
Replies: 17
Views: 1,169
Posted By tiptoe1969
Re: Implemented 180 and Plan B

JNJ and PHT thank you for the advice. I have listed my conditions to my husband and has totally agreed that he needs to meet all my requests.

1) No contact letter. Sent to her and BCC me.
2)...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 01-08-2012, 09:22 PM
Replies: 17
Views: 1,169
Posted By tiptoe1969
Re: Implemented 180 and Plan B

Thanks for all the replies. Once WS agrees and is commited to all of my terms as mentioned in the forum do I let him move back in? If we are separated how do I make him accountable. I don't want...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 01-07-2012, 01:35 PM
Replies: 17
Views: 1,169
Posted By tiptoe1969
Re: Implemented 180 and Plan B

Thank you for your advice. Maybe that's why my attempts are not working. I have not laid out what I want accept no contact with OW (which is huge).

I have also read from marriage builders...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 01-07-2012, 01:28 PM
Replies: 13
Views: 1,013
Posted By tiptoe1969
Re: To The BS Here, I'm Sorry.

WakeUP great song. It is wonderful that your wife opened her heart to forgive. I love to hear the stories from a truly remorseful WS. Can you share more about your journey? How long was your...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 01-07-2012, 01:10 PM
Replies: 17
Views: 1,169
Posted By tiptoe1969
Re: Implemented 180 and Plan B

I guess my philosophy is that he needs to do prove to me without me having to coach him. If I coach him then it may not be sincere. But I just don't think he knows what to do. I feel if I have to...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 01-07-2012, 12:59 PM
Replies: 17
Views: 1,169
Posted By tiptoe1969
Re: Implemented 180 and Plan B

Do you think I should ask him to send a NC letter to OW in front of m? or should I trust that he ended it again. My feeling about NC letter is that it can just be a cover-up that he send it and...
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