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Forum: Reconciliation 03-01-2013, 01:18 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 771
Posted By 2xloser
Re: A BS's letter to the OW

Why YOU are writing this letter and not him?

To be honest it loses some credibility to me, where you are speaking for him -- like he can't say these things himself... sorry.

Picture the OW...
Forum: Life After Divorce 07-19-2012, 03:35 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 657
Posted By 2xloser
Re: Co-parenting

I don't think anyone can say what is best because it depends on your combined schedules and availability.

For me, (not D yet) with my work and travel schedule vs. hers (part time flexible work), I...
Forum: Life After Divorce 07-19-2012, 03:12 PM
Replies: 7
Views: 905
Posted By 2xloser
Re: Bad Deal

Just check my screen name... and yes, I firmly believe(d) "I love you" = forever, and that divorce is not an option on the table once married.
And yet here I am, embarking upon my 2nd.
Both wives...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 06-28-2012, 05:47 PM
Replies: 761
Views: 53,672
Posted By 2xloser
Re: D-day 3!

I am shaking with anger and frustration and plain old hurt for you, dinger. Many of us were fooled, but nobody can be hurting like you are. Wishing there was a way to help you from afar (If there is,...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 06-28-2012, 08:19 AM
Replies: 44
Views: 5,716
Posted By 2xloser
Re: How Many Men Didn't Reconcile After Affair and Wife Was Remorseful.

:iagree: Fantastic post here. I was one that said those very words TO HER -- after having been through D #1, should wife #2 cheat in any way I'd be gone in a split-second. She didn't have a sexual...
Forum: Going Through Divorce or Separation 05-31-2012, 10:38 PM
Replies: 63
Views: 2,422
Posted By 2xloser
Re: Should I pay spousal support?

If it helps, my WW was the cheater and as a SAHM had NO income, and I make very good money. We're splitting through mediation, and regardless of the fact that HER infidelity is leading to the split,...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-25-2012, 09:00 AM
Replies: 33
Views: 2,144
Posted By 2xloser
Re: "Just Friends"

As a different perspective fwiw, I completely disagree with this.

I feel strongly that IF there's a path being taken -- which there clearly is -- and there is a chance that through you FIGHTING...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-25-2012, 08:45 AM
Replies: 26
Views: 1,540
Posted By 2xloser
Re: He's caught and still lying and gaslighting

Probably not, but the sad part is -- she should!

"Time" for WHAT, exactly? Him to fabricate more? I don't think so. Throw his azz out, protect yourself financially and emotionally as best you can,...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-23-2012, 10:55 AM
Replies: 204
Views: 15,731
Posted By 2xloser
Re: Cheated on husband by kissing/"2nd base"

A few things "for the record", tina -

1) Many people here will of course beat you up for what you've done. Consider where you are, a forum of people who've been cheated on (myself included), and...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-23-2012, 09:09 AM
Replies: 204
Views: 15,731
Posted By 2xloser
Re: Cheated on husband by kissing/"2nd base"

I believe you, fwiw. But I do not believe you are tackling this in your head completely yet.

Yes as others have pointed out, you have boundary issues and need to work on that, and I'm glad you...
Forum: Going Through Divorce or Separation 05-18-2012, 07:51 AM
Replies: 8
Views: 363
Posted By 2xloser
Re: Confused on what to do

You can't win, so don't waste your money buying a gift unless you'd look back and beat yourself up for it as you ultimately split up. Acknowledge the day, without looking like you're desperately...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-18-2012, 07:44 AM
Replies: 15
Views: 990
Posted By 2xloser
Re: Past denial...

I never thought of it from this angle -- totally agree!!!

OP, the anger doesn't completely go away, but you do gradually start to learn to control it and manage it. The problem for me, however, is...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-18-2012, 07:33 AM
Replies: 28
Views: 1,979
Posted By 2xloser
Re: In Limbo for nearly 2 years.

I am all for R where the BS can work through it but it sure sounds to me like you are literally just sitting around waiting for her to do it a FOURTH time. Why? To prove you right, that she couldn't...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-16-2012, 11:40 AM
Replies: 53
Views: 2,406
Posted By 2xloser
Re: For BS...does the "I love you" statement bother you the most?

Yes, it was the nail that ultimately killed it all for me. The feelings behind the words she said, "I love you and I know I shouldn't, and I am not going to stop"... were more than I could...
Forum: Life After Divorce 05-15-2012, 02:53 PM
Replies: 15
Views: 894
Posted By 2xloser
Re: Now I'm the veteran??

Just being there to listen will help the dude enormously, as you already know. And any guidance on how to walk through the minefield he is in will be more invaluable to him. You're doing him a great...
Forum: Life After Divorce 05-15-2012, 01:40 PM
Replies: 15
Views: 894
Posted By 2xloser
Re: Now I'm the veteran??

So smart of you for realizing up front that you'll want to not seize the opportunity to bring your own stuff up into the discussion -- too easy to get caught (back) up into it. That all strikes a bit...
Forum: General Relationship Discussion 05-15-2012, 12:48 PM
Replies: 53
Views: 1,864
Posted By 2xloser
Re: Help please!

Cut off the cash. I bet the inmate asks her to fund his "procedure", and I bet he's not having one.
Forum: Going Through Divorce or Separation 05-15-2012, 11:46 AM
Replies: 23
Views: 1,204
Posted By 2xloser
Re: really....just leave me alone

"WE are not going through this; you are... I am over it." feels appropriate if you choose to send anyting back....
Forum: Going Through Divorce or Separation 05-15-2012, 11:25 AM
Replies: 86
Views: 3,247
Posted By 2xloser
Re: The Positive/Happy Thread

The three most enjoyable, relaxing things to me are:
- My son giggling with his belly laugh
- A long motorycle ride on twisty roads with no traffic, great weather, and the music turned way up
-...
Forum: Sex in Marriage 05-15-2012, 11:12 AM
Replies: 8
Views: 931
Posted By 2xloser
Re: lost my confidence

How about just asking her why?
I pray I am wrong -- but I'd start investigating.
This exact scenario happened to me... and little did I know, it was either a result of her feelings and/or a...
Forum: Going Through Divorce or Separation 05-14-2012, 11:23 AM
Replies: 21
Views: 1,108
Posted By 2xloser
Re: STBXW Not attempting to move forward

I feel for you, in a similar situation myself... want to do the right thing; part-time working wife keeping her whole while we live amicably as co-parents, but not as husband and wife except legally....
Forum: Reconciliation 05-11-2012, 10:56 AM
Replies: 5
Views: 1,284
Posted By 2xloser
Re: Questioning the fine line of reconciliation or separation

Sorry you're here and in this position... you love her, which clouds you from seeing how much she's just not into you anymore. Whether she's actually still with OM, or another OM is not the issue....
Forum: General Relationship Discussion 04-19-2012, 06:22 PM
Replies: 71
Views: 3,404
Posted By 2xloser
Re: Who has helped you here?

:iagree: ^ this, totally!
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 04-13-2012, 05:33 PM
Replies: 23
Views: 1,328
Posted By 2xloser
Re: Not gonna fly.....

Why can't you, if that's what it takes for you to feel right? Yes you absolutely can. Many a counselor/therapist has suggested getting rid of everything up to and incluidng the marital home is fair...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 04-13-2012, 04:38 PM
Replies: 124
Views: 6,169
Posted By 2xloser
Re: Whats the big deal with an EA? (EA vs PA Question)

I wish to god my wife had just had sex one night and woke up, regretted it, and stopped her EA. Instead, a 2-year-long EA occured where she didn't think of it as an "afair", because they never had...
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