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Forum: Coping with Infidelity Yesterday, 12:45 AM
Replies: 71
Views: 3,114
Posted By slater
Re: Going to a conference with fWW

Thank you

We had a helluva session at MC yesterday. I thought we were done, then a dam broke. Maybe she saw I was ready to go. Different woman. I am still guarded. IDK. conf is in June.
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-20-2013, 05:13 PM
Replies: 71
Views: 3,114
Posted By slater
Re: Going to a conference with fWW

No one in my wife's industry loses their jobs. It is almost accepted. Some people are blatant about it apparently. My fWW tells me all about it now. I am leaning towards going. Instead of...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-20-2013, 03:30 PM
Replies: 71
Views: 3,114
Posted By slater
Re: Going to a conference with fWW

I was camping with my kid all weekend, so I just caught up with the thread. Thank you for all of the input. The trip is next month, I have not decided what to do, but probably will have to soon. ...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-17-2013, 01:49 PM
Replies: 71
Views: 3,114
Posted By slater
Re: Going to a conference with fWW

BINGO. You are right. Not sure- I think part of the reason I want to go is to F with her. Make her feel consequences. I don't think she would sleep around on me if I didn't go, but I sure as hell...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-17-2013, 11:47 AM
Replies: 71
Views: 3,114
Posted By slater
Re: Going to a conference with fWW

I can't go to all of the events with her. Just not possible. Not even sure I can get in the exhibition hall but I may be able to buy a day pass.
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Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-17-2013, 09:46 AM
Replies: 71
Views: 3,114
Posted By slater
Re: Going to a conference with fWW

Thanks LM- it really helped hearing that. I was sort of thinking that. To the others, I don't think anyone is hitting on her anymore. She has changed quite a bit, and understands what she was...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-17-2013, 09:21 AM
Replies: 71
Views: 3,114
Posted By slater
Going to a conference with fWW

I have dilemna. My fWW and I are 15 months post DDAy- hanging on. I don't want to go into all of it, many of you know the past. She had a LTA with a co-worker. She has since changed jobs, as has...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-15-2013, 07:50 PM
Replies: 50
Views: 1,876
Posted By slater
Re: Move back in and expose?

It probably cannot be saved. But to save it you have to do the exact opposite of what you have been doing.

Instead of trying to win her back and "nice" her back you have to force consequences...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-14-2013, 10:34 AM
Replies: 29
Views: 2,024
Posted By slater
Re: Real Interesting Thread

I've been lurking over there quite a bit lately. No doubt it is watered down and the threads die quickly. No one really tells the BS's what they need to hear, just lots of hugs and $hit. I do like...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-09-2013, 10:00 AM
Replies: 56
Views: 2,062
Posted By slater
Re: Humorous Mother's Day cards for the WW

I am obligated to get you a card for the kids sake....here it is.

or

Happy Mother's Day! Let's keep the chirade alive for the kids another year!

or

For all the times you put yourself...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 05-04-2013, 10:08 PM
Replies: 306
Views: 42,165
Posted By slater
Re: suspect my wife ... GPS recommendations?

OP states his stbxw is very attractive. Reminds me of one of my all time favorite lines-
"No matter how hot she is, somebody, somewhere, is sick of her $hit!"
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 04-28-2013, 06:26 PM
Replies: 103
Views: 3,456
Posted By slater
Re: A song to share with your Wayward?

I shared this song with my fWW. It REALLY hits home, plus it is a great song..

Brandi Carlile
That Wasn't Me

That Wasn't Me - YouTube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TDxF_lLony4)


Hang...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 04-25-2013, 06:21 PM
Replies: 110
Views: 6,475
Posted By slater
Re: Revenge Affair/ My Needs

why do you say false R? I have no proof, and really don'y suspect her of violating NC or pursuing anyone else. I have kept up my vigilance. She has been trying, though as I mentioned not to level...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 04-25-2013, 12:56 PM
Replies: 1,236
Views: 81,907
Posted By slater
Re: Just found out...need advice :(

Torn I can only imagine what you ae going through waiting on the test results. I don't even know you but I am anxious. I hope they come in tomorrow for your sake.

Best of luck my friend.
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 04-24-2013, 09:49 PM
Replies: 110
Views: 6,475
Posted By slater
Re: Revenge Affair/ My Needs

I fear you are right...but yes



By far this seems to be her biggest fear- the kids knowing. They are young 9 and 6. But I did expose to her family and mine and a few of her friends. on DDay...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 04-24-2013, 11:27 AM
Replies: 110
Views: 6,475
Posted By slater
Re: Revenge Affair/ My Needs

I am not going to have an RA. My thinking has cleared. I will not stoop to her level and violate my own values. She wants us to suffer for the kids. She knew what she was doing. I asked her if...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 04-24-2013, 09:37 AM
Replies: 110
Views: 6,475
Posted By slater
Re: Revenge Affair/ My Needs

Update-

Things were going well for about 2 weeks, then she started to slack off. It was a slow decline until she was not making any daily effort anymore. I asked for a detailed timeline from her...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 04-23-2013, 11:31 AM
Replies: 25
Views: 1,343
Posted By slater
Re: How I got here

My guess is that if she agrees to NC, she will only take it underground. There has never been a marriage. So sorry OP. I see no way other than D. Look at the bright side, now you can move forward...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 04-22-2013, 03:13 PM
Replies: 1,140
Views: 105,064
Posted By slater
Re: Need advice. She might be cheating

Dreyes- late to the thread but just wanted to pass along my support. You are doing everything pretty much correct. Get on that employment attorney. You must crush this SOB OM. It will really help...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 04-19-2013, 01:03 PM
Replies: 1,236
Views: 81,907
Posted By slater
Re: Just found out...need advice :(

^ this. Same with me. Every A is different though they follow the same script. But the details are different. The reality is you know enough to make your decision. If you decide to R you will...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 04-18-2013, 04:38 PM
Replies: 46
Views: 3,137
Posted By slater
Re: DDay 2 via False R...

JESuS F-ing Chr1st.... YOU MUST EXPOSE! I dont care about work, but if you expose to your family, her family and yours/ hers friends it will end. She feels no weight of shame now. You must lso...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 04-11-2013, 11:57 AM
Replies: 50
Views: 2,437
Posted By slater
Re: The trust is damaged

I hate to say it but you sound exactly like me 2 years ago. Does you wife travel at all for work? If you ask for access to her phone is she reluctant? Odds are it won't matter. There wan never...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 04-10-2013, 10:20 PM
Replies: 67
Views: 4,581
Posted By slater
Re: D Day

Roostr-

My story is similar to yours. Long term PA, that I had to end. I can say after trying R for almost 14 months many days I wish I had just filed. We have small children so I decided to...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 04-08-2013, 02:44 PM
Replies: 83
Views: 4,473
Posted By slater
Re: Where the truth lies

Horizon- you know what you need to do. Write out a list of what needs to be done. It all starts with working out and getting yourself healthy and strong. You are still young and have small kids. ...
Forum: Coping with Infidelity 04-07-2013, 10:19 AM
Replies: 67
Views: 2,708
Posted By slater
Re: Work is the best and untouchable place to cheat

I can't comment on exposure at work- for me it made no sense, she left her job and he had already moved on. But I will repeat my FWW and the OM travelled together for work. They were a team that...
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