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Forum: Financial Problems in Marriage   05-14-2015, 07:55 AM
Replies: 26
Views: 670
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Re: Going from joint to separate finances in marriage

My suggestion is to ask her for her input on how to best set up the finances. (If you came up with this full plan without her input and think that she will feel less controlled by it, then you don't...
Forum: The Family & Parenting Forums   05-14-2015, 07:46 AM
Replies: 32
Views: 1,378
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Re: Talking to your parents about your relationship issues. Yes or no?

I hope that one day, when my kids are grown, they feel comfortable coming to talk to me if they need advice, support, guidance, anything. I want to raise resilient, self-reliant people, but no one is...
Forum: Life After Divorce   05-14-2015, 07:34 AM
Replies: 117
Views: 3,082
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Re: On Line Dating Pet Peeves

:rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl:
Forum: The Ladies' Lounge   05-14-2015, 07:15 AM
Replies: 46
Views: 1,508
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Re: LADIES.. what are your thoughts on SENSITIVE MEN.. the good, the bad, the ugly ??

We all have emotions, and men feel every bit as much as women do. It comes down to how you handle your emotions.

Do you keep your emotions in check no matter the circumstance? Do you avoid being...
Forum: Life After Divorce   05-13-2015, 12:09 PM
Replies: 117
Views: 3,082
Posted By SurpriseMyself
Re: On Line Dating Pet Peeves

I've had it twice in my life. Both times I made the first move and we ended up together for a while. Didn't work in the end, but I'll never forget how it all began.

And neither was online. I've...
Forum: Life After Divorce   05-13-2015, 12:07 PM
Replies: 117
Views: 3,082
Posted By SurpriseMyself
Re: On Line Dating Pet Peeves

Gave you all you needed to know, though. Some women would find that a turn on, others a turn off.
Forum: Life After Divorce   05-13-2015, 12:05 PM
Replies: 117
Views: 3,082
Posted By SurpriseMyself
Re: On Line Dating Pet Peeves

Seriously? And I thought I'd met some unbalanced guys in the past. Few people texted the last time I tried online dating (2002!).

From what I recall, my pet peeves were profiles with no info, guys...
Forum: The Men's Clubhouse   05-11-2015, 03:08 PM
Replies: 145
Views: 5,646
Posted By SurpriseMyself
He is far from any honest assessment of himself...

He is far from any honest assessment of himself or his marriage, for sure.
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Forum: The Men's Clubhouse   05-11-2015, 02:53 PM
Replies: 145
Views: 5,646
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Then buy her gifts and spend time with your kids...

Then buy her gifts and spend time with your kids because it is what he wants. I don't understand the solution here. It's a tit for tat. But hey, if that works for you then go for it. Still, you have...
Forum: The Men's Clubhouse   05-11-2015, 02:04 PM
Replies: 145
Views: 5,646
Posted By SurpriseMyself
Your wife gives all to your children. You give...

Your wife gives all to your children. You give all to your work. You see how you are the same? Taking your child to soccer and her working won't change the dynamic between you. If she is ok with how...
Forum: The Men's Clubhouse   05-10-2015, 09:51 PM
Replies: 145
Views: 5,646
Posted By SurpriseMyself
And here is your dilemma, so very clearly laid...

And here is your dilemma, so very clearly laid out in your own words.

You were raised in a traditional family where children, mothers, and fathers each had their place. The father earns the money....
Forum: The Ladies' Lounge   05-10-2015, 02:36 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 326
Posted By SurpriseMyself
Holy cow, sisters! Used slippers from...

Holy cow, sisters! Used slippers from goodwill!?!? He is a POS.
Forum: The Ladies' Lounge   05-10-2015, 02:19 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 326
Posted By SurpriseMyself
Asking me if I have anything planned for today...

Asking me if I have anything planned for today just doesn't cut it for me. I asked, "because it's Mother's Day?" He said yes. He slept in; I was up at 5:45 with our son.

If I have to plan my own...
Forum: The Ladies' Lounge   05-10-2015, 01:57 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 326
Posted By SurpriseMyself
He knows it's important to me. He just can't be...

He knows it's important to me. He just can't be bothered. He knew when I was 9 months pregnant with our first and he did nothing for me. I was hormonal and cried. I was already a mom in my view.
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Forum: The Ladies' Lounge   05-10-2015, 01:54 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 326
Posted By SurpriseMyself
I think it teaches girls to do for others and...

I think it teaches girls to do for others and that it's ok to be taken for granted. It teaches boys they women are givers and are happy without recognition or kindness.
Forum: The Ladies' Lounge   05-10-2015, 01:10 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 326
Posted By SurpriseMyself
Make my own Mother's Day

My mom passed in 2013 after a slow decline due to Alzheimer's. My H doesn't really do Mother's Day things. He took our daughter out shopping and bought me some plants which are sitting on the front...
Forum: General Relationship Discussion   04-27-2015, 03:09 PM
Replies: 9
Views: 414
Posted By SurpriseMyself
Re: Need clarity on separation and decision to divorce

Some of what your H does is what mine does. It sounds like he has avoidant personality disorder. Whether that is really the case is for a doctor to decide. He could simply be passive aggressive.

I...
Forum: Sex in Marriage   04-26-2015, 08:25 AM
Replies: 65
Views: 3,186
Posted By SurpriseMyself
Re: Do they know what they are giving up (LD spouses)?

This is a very defeatist, sad, and confusing post. I hope you are able to learn from the folks on TAM and move past how you feel today. It's no way for either of you to live. If you were broken...
Forum: General Relationship Discussion   04-24-2015, 08:10 PM
Replies: 104
Views: 3,339
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Re: SEX DRIVE : How do men and women compare...what's your take... your experience?

If it is really the same, I think we would have the same number of HD women on TAM ready to leave their LD husbands.
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Forum: Suggestion Box   04-24-2015, 11:24 AM
Replies: 43
Views: 2,086
Posted By SurpriseMyself
GC (a.k.a. The trough) must be ridiculed ad...

GC (a.k.a. The trough) must be ridiculed ad nauseum whenever it is suggested. Further, from the sneeze guards to the over cooked, over salted, bland mush they pass off as "food," it's very mention...
Forum: General Relationship Discussion   04-22-2015, 01:35 PM
Replies: 23
Views: 1,070
Posted By SurpriseMyself
Re: What are your boundaries in committed relationships/marriage?

I have a boundary with excessive porn. If you watch it for hours at a time, I think it is unhealthy.

As for opposite sex friends, it's fine as long as it's not an ex. No good can ever come from...
Forum: The Men's Clubhouse   04-22-2015, 09:32 AM
Replies: 78
Views: 5,816
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Re: Average penis size revealed to be less than six inches

The goldilocks rule applies to me. I've been hurt when he's too big and feel awkward when it's too small. Never actually had sexual with one too small, but did perform oral once and it was...
Forum: The Men's Clubhouse   04-20-2015, 11:52 AM
Replies: 182
Views: 11,684
Posted By SurpriseMyself
Re: Vagina size

I'm a woman, so I don't have first hand experience here, but I have heard that women who have a substantial thigh gap are not as tight.
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Forum: Suggestion Box   04-20-2015, 10:23 AM
Replies: 33
Views: 1,320
Posted By SurpriseMyself
Re: Proposing a LD subsection in the SIM forum

As an admitted LD whose thread was locked due to one poster's bashing and anger, I know I won't go back on SIM until it's a safer place to be. I had put the basher on ignore, but others were still...
Forum: Suggestion Box   04-20-2015, 10:09 AM
Replies: 276
Views: 17,870
Posted By SurpriseMyself
Re: The New Banned Members Thread

I knew why I was banned and I earned it. I have since learned to not take the bait and not to let other people's anger or attitude get the best of me.

My banning was an important lesson, not in...
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