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Forum: General Relationship Discussion Today, 03:03 PM
Replies: 131
Views: 4,476
Posted By Uptown
Re: Waking up to life's update

The purpose of not announcing D in advance is safety, not credibility. If he has strong BPD traits, you will have no lasting credibility no matter what you do. He is incapable of trusting you for...
Forum: General Relationship Discussion Today, 02:24 PM
Replies: 131
Views: 4,476
Posted By Uptown
Re: Waking up to life's update

Well, we will at least be there with you in spirit, Waking!
Forum: Considering Divorce or Separation Today, 01:08 PM
Replies: 17
Views: 372
Posted By Uptown
Re: Controlling Husband

MPZ, all of the traits in that list are typical for folks having strong traits of BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder). The strong fear of abandonment, for example, is a hallmark of BPD and is the...
Forum: General Relationship Discussion Today, 08:07 AM
Replies: 43
Views: 1,256
Posted By Uptown
Re: Walking on eggshells

I agree with everything that 3X, Diwali, Waking, and Prodigal just said, MsStacy. Like you and me, they have much experience with abusive, unstable people.Likewise, my BPDer exW was always accusing...
Forum: General Relationship Discussion Yesterday, 10:36 PM
Replies: 131
Views: 4,476
Posted By Uptown
Re: Waking up to life's update

Yes, please consider doing that. That way, you could each go your own way -- with you going to the apartment -- following the meeting.
Forum: General Relationship Discussion Yesterday, 09:41 PM
Replies: 131
Views: 4,476
Posted By Uptown
Re: Waking up to life's update

Waking, I still am concerned about your safety on Announcement Day. If your H is emotionally unstable, as you believe, there is no way to anticipate what actions he is capable of when his worst fear...
Forum: Considering Divorce or Separation Yesterday, 03:41 PM
Replies: 17
Views: 372
Posted By Uptown
Re: Controlling Husband

MPZ, welcome to the TAM forum. Even if you D this man, you likely will be sharing custody of your son with him for nearly 17 years. I therefore urge you to see a clinical psychologist -- for a...
Forum: Going Through Divorce or Separation Yesterday, 09:58 AM
Replies: 16
Views: 636
Posted By Uptown
Re: I left my wife, now feeling confused

If she has full-blown BPD traits, you should be thinking more in terms of several years for a substantial change. I would be surprised, however, if as many as 1 in 100 BPDers have sufficient self...
Forum: General Relationship Discussion 05-17-2013, 09:26 PM
Replies: 29
Views: 871
Posted By Uptown
Re: New here, my wife is wearing my patience thin.

Joe, like Prodigal and IsGirl3, I am left wondering why in the world you've been staying with this abusive, mean-spirited woman for 7 years? You don't say one good thing about her. You say she...
Forum: The Family & Parenting Forums 05-17-2013, 07:47 PM
Replies: 19
Views: 1,376
Posted By Uptown
Re: Parental Alienation story

:iagree:A superb writer, actually. That verbal exchange -- which you describe with such clarity, Dave -- was painful for me to read. Your website, by the way, is excellent too -- especially the...
Forum: Physical & Mental Health Issues 05-17-2013, 07:23 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 222
Posted By Uptown
Re: My Story

Perhaps so, Argyle. As you know, most folks having strong traits of one PD also have strong traits of one or two others. A recent study found that 37% of NPDers have full blown BPD and 39% of...
Forum: General Relationship Discussion 05-16-2013, 08:33 PM
Replies: 7
Views: 396
Posted By Uptown
Re: Husband is so mean to me

Prodigal, thanks for the PM. If I understand NGirl correctly, she is saying her H was diagnosed not with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) but, rather, with bipolar disorder. Yet, if you are...
Forum: Physical & Mental Health Issues 05-16-2013, 06:50 PM
Replies: 44
Views: 1,714
Posted By Uptown
Re: Wife with mental issues please help

Condor, my exW behaved much the same way and, like your W, she had been molested for several years by her father (the bio dad in her case) -- starting about age 6. He also was verbally and...
Forum: General Relationship Discussion 05-16-2013, 06:27 PM
Replies: 31
Views: 1,497
Posted By Uptown
Re: Conflicted, Confused and Crushed.....this is a long one

Mike, I know what you mean. Although I've been divorced from my BPDer exW for over five years, I still love her. Indeed, following the D, I visited with her on the phone for 8 months when she...
Forum: General Relationship Discussion 05-15-2013, 10:01 PM
Replies: 43
Views: 1,256
Posted By Uptown
Re: Walking on eggshells

If he has strong BPD traits, yes. Granted, there are a few high functioning BPDers who have the self awareness and ego strength needed to confront their issues and work hard on them. For those...
Forum: Physical & Mental Health Issues 05-15-2013, 08:01 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 222
Posted By Uptown
Re: My Story

Pretzel, welcome to the TAM forum. I agree with everything Pink wrote above, especially what she said about the importance of establishing strong personal boundaries -- and enforcing them.

I...
Forum: General Relationship Discussion 05-15-2013, 06:44 PM
Replies: 43
Views: 1,256
Posted By Uptown
Re: Walking on eggshells

MsStacy, I'm sorry to hear that the MC is not going well. I am not surprised, however. If your H has strong BPD traits, his issues go far beyond the lack of communication skills that MCs teach. My...
Forum: General Relationship Discussion 05-11-2013, 12:30 PM
Replies: 28
Views: 925
Posted By Uptown
Re: We argued and he wants nothing to do with me

Really? Why is it that, in the 16 threads you've started, you've never mentioned his psychosis before? Why did you not mention it at the outset in this thread, instead of simply complaining about...
Forum: Sex in Marriage 05-11-2013, 09:47 AM
Replies: 394
Views: 17,365
Posted By Uptown
Re: LD wife has turned me off

Good to hear, Indy. The sooner the better.
Forum: General Relationship Discussion 05-11-2013, 09:43 AM
Replies: 14
Views: 657
Posted By Uptown
Re: Getting closer to being done....

Lucianne, I noticed that you identified very closely with Waking's story in your post today at...
Forum: General Relationship Discussion 05-10-2013, 10:10 PM
Replies: 28
Views: 925
Posted By Uptown
Re: We argued and he wants nothing to do with me

Well, anything is possible, Startermom. But it seems very unlikely -- if your H were actually psychotic -- that you would come here complaining that he misinterpreted your reaction to his joke about...
Forum: General Relationship Discussion 05-10-2013, 09:23 PM
Replies: 131
Views: 4,476
Posted By Uptown
Re: Waking up to life's update

Waking, thanks so much for giving us an update. I wish the two of you the very best at the separation. If he has strong BPD traits, as you suspect, he likely will become very vindictive when he...
Forum: General Relationship Discussion 05-10-2013, 07:35 PM
Replies: 22
Views: 945
Posted By Uptown
Re: Tumultuous relationship

CW, thanks so much for giving us an update. I'm pleased to hear you are enjoying a respite from the abuse, i.e., a calm before the next storm. Again, I suggest you see your own psychologist -- for...
Forum: General Relationship Discussion 05-10-2013, 07:09 PM
Replies: 9
Views: 642
Posted By Uptown
Re: My husband says he hates me.

Mommy, actually, there is a LOT you can do.

As an initial matter, if you suspect your H has strong BPD traits, I recommend that you NOT tell him. If he is a BPDer, he almost certainly will...
Forum: Considering Divorce or Separation 05-09-2013, 08:04 PM
Replies: 41
Views: 1,623
Posted By Uptown
Re: Am I supposed to constantly suffer

NeedHelp, if you decide that she has strong BPD and/or NPD traits, my advice is to separate from her and file for D if she doesn't agree to seek IC by a psychologist or psychiatrist. Even if she...
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