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Forum: Sex in Marriage 07-15-2011, 01:12 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 1,157
Posted By Zaphod
Re: Great sex then we got married?

It happened. What was shocking to me, at the time, was that I actually heard something like that. I've since never, ever, not even once heard anything like it again. In fact, truth be told, I...
Forum: Sex in Marriage 07-13-2011, 01:46 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 1,157
Posted By Zaphod
Re: Great sex then we got married?

Call me strange though, but it seems logical to assume that the sexual relationship will not be the opposite of what one had just prior to the ring being put on the finger. Why would one assume...
Forum: Sex in Marriage 07-13-2011, 12:40 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 1,157
Posted By Zaphod
Re: Great sex then we got married?

I have to disagree. The immediate change in behavior after getting a desired goal does not speak to me of somebody suddenly, just a couple of weeks after marriage, forgetting how to "communicate...
Forum: Sex in Marriage 07-13-2011, 11:29 AM
Replies: 14
Views: 1,157
Posted By Zaphod
Re: Great sex then we got married?

In the market place we call that "bait and switch". And yes, it does happen with somewhat alarming frequency in regards to marriage.

When I was in the military, oh so long ago, I recall...
Forum: Sex in Marriage 07-12-2011, 01:11 PM
Replies: 42
Views: 2,666
Posted By Zaphod
Re: No sexual drive, ever! Help!

And you are absolutely wrong. What you experienced are individuals acting a certain way, not an entire faith and belief system. You've ignored my pointing out the absolutely huge families Catholics...
Forum: Sex in Marriage 07-12-2011, 12:05 PM
Replies: 1
Views: 402
Posted By Zaphod
Re: It's all too confusing.....

Have you tried a Sex Therapist yet? If not, it might help. Not a guarantee, but it does help some people. Don't let it be an "option", rather, state that you both need this to save the...
Forum: Sex in Marriage 07-12-2011, 11:08 AM
Replies: 42
Views: 2,666
Posted By Zaphod
Re: No sexual drive, ever! Help!

Oh? And where do you glean this nugget of wisdom? The concept of sex in Christianity is hardly one of asexualism. One doesn't go forth and populate the planet by not having sex, and that's just...
Forum: Sex in Marriage 07-12-2011, 10:16 AM
Replies: 42
Views: 2,666
Posted By Zaphod
Re: No sexual drive, ever! Help!

That is a highly prejudiced, judgmental and insulting thing to say.

Perhaps you haven't noticed, but Catholics have huge families and tend to go at it like rabbits more often than not. Even the...
Forum: General Relationship Discussion 06-03-2011, 09:37 AM
Replies: 16
Views: 1,132
Posted By Zaphod
Re: Can someone explain this behavior:

What's to explain? According to my reading of history, that's how it generally works across time and cultures.

I'm actually being quite serious, what about this confuses you, maybe I'm missing...
Forum: General Relationship Discussion 06-03-2011, 09:31 AM
Replies: 9
Views: 7,362
Posted By Zaphod
Re: How to talk to husband about his female friends

Very few female "friends" are actual real friends to a guy I'm afraid. Not that it doesn't happen of course, but in my experience and having talked to a bazillion guys I think we all came to the...
Forum: Sex in Marriage 06-03-2011, 08:41 AM
Replies: 79
Views: 27,043
Posted By Zaphod
Re: not attracted to my husband

:iagree:

Strange how that works isn't it?

Sorry, I'm feeling particularly bitter today for some reason, I'll try to put a leash on it.
Forum: Sex in Marriage 06-03-2011, 08:34 AM
Replies: 22
Views: 2,872
Posted By Zaphod
Re: does men like foreplay?

I'm aware of the theory. What I think I may not have communicated quite clearly is that foreplay should probably incite excitement in a woman, not have her checking her watch and wanting you to get...
Forum: The Men's Clubhouse 06-03-2011, 07:57 AM
Replies: 160
Views: 14,891
Posted By Zaphod
Re: What makes a 35+ woman attractive to you?

The same thing that makes any woman attractive to me:

Keeps herself fit physically and mentally; meaning no major hang ups or mental issues, as well as somebody who hasn't decided that after the...
Forum: The Men's Clubhouse 06-03-2011, 07:46 AM
Replies: 393
Views: 14,532
Posted By Zaphod
Re: Men: Will you please translate this for me?

This was my first thought as well. It's easy to put a guy not fitting a pre-conceived secure mold into the "midlife crisis" role, but that's just too simplistic most of the time. Sometimes stress...
Forum: Sex in Marriage 06-03-2011, 07:35 AM
Replies: 22
Views: 2,872
Posted By Zaphod
Re: does men like foreplay?

It's a matter of context, there is no one right answer to this, it really depends on the individual man. Some guys hate foreplay all the time, some like it dependent on situation, some need it every...
Forum: Sex in Marriage 06-03-2011, 07:29 AM
Replies: 13
Views: 1,115
Posted By Zaphod
Re: WTF happened, and we both want to know...

I don't mean any offense, but I think you're over generalizing. 40 something guys are, normally, going through a renaissance of their libido at this time, the 30's are the problem years, usually for...
Forum: Sex in Marriage 06-02-2011, 01:09 PM
Replies: 79
Views: 27,043
Posted By Zaphod
Re: not attracted to my husband

I have no idea what to say. I went from normal/skinny when we met to muscular and V shaped today. At one time she indicated that she liked guys that looked like that, and though I didn't pursue...
Forum: Sex in Marriage 06-02-2011, 12:39 PM
Replies: 17
Views: 1,285
Posted By Zaphod
Re: an update - 1 year later

Well, don't keep us in suspense, if improvements have been made then how were they brought about if I may be so bold as to ask?
Forum: Sex in Marriage 06-02-2011, 10:28 AM
Replies: 18
Views: 1,042
Posted By Zaphod
Re: Well, zarquon...

I was presenting the only two logical solutions to the situation as it stands now, at least in my view. I don't believe I have the ability to cheat. I don't consider infidelity necessarily...
Forum: Sex in Marriage 06-02-2011, 08:41 AM
Replies: 18
Views: 1,042
Posted By Zaphod
Re: Well, zarquon...

So how does one deal with this? I swear to you, it has been forever in the asking about her feelings, desires, motivations etc, yet even the sex therapist got really nothing else but this ("never...
Forum: Sex in Marriage 06-02-2011, 08:30 AM
Replies: 67
Views: 4,316
Posted By Zaphod
Re: Patiently waiting for her "prime"

The "peak" is a myth insofar as it happens to most or all women. Some yes, but if the husbands around me in my life are any indication it's something that appears to be confined to places other than...
Forum: Sex in Marriage 06-02-2011, 07:45 AM
Replies: 18
Views: 1,042
Posted By Zaphod
Re: Well, zarquon...

I strongly believe that I absolutely reinforced her idea that the behavior was acceptable, since I took all the blame for a very long period of time. If I was taking all of the blame, I believe she...
Forum: Sex in Marriage 06-02-2011, 07:40 AM
Replies: 18
Views: 1,042
Posted By Zaphod
Re: Well, zarquon...

The idea of an affair has crossed my mind. She does seem completely asexual though, but I'm aware that doesn't mean that she couldn't try an affair to trade up on a better husband. The working...
Forum: Sex in Marriage 06-02-2011, 07:33 AM
Replies: 18
Views: 1,042
Posted By Zaphod
Re: Well, zarquon...

@Rain

If I hadn't mentioned it, and I think I did but perhaps I didn't detail it enough, I spent 10 of the 15 years accepting blame for everything that went wrong. Meaning, I asked her, over, and...
Forum: Sex in Marriage 06-01-2011, 01:14 PM
Replies: 18
Views: 1,042
Posted By Zaphod
Well, zarquon...

Hello everybody.

I found this forum about a month ago and I have been reading through posts on this sub-forum back through about July of 2010. This story will sound similar to some, different...
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