Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: On the cusp of something great!
Re: Living with a narcissist
Just wanted to say I walked out on my narcissistic STBX in May 2012. I am working, saving money, feeling appreciated, respected, all the stuff I never got from 23 years with him!
I would like to recommend a book to all of you that helped me A LOT when I worked through it earlier this year with another TAM member. We each had a copy of the book (we live in different states); we'd read a chapter, answer the questions, and then email the answer to each other.
This made us really THINK about our answers, and helped us to ask each other any pertinent follow-up questions that would help clarify things. It keeps you honest and focused and helps you GET IT DONE knowing that someone else is working on it WITH you! I really recommend you buddy-up and do this.
The book is "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie and was recommended here on TAM (which is where *I* learned about it). I found it helpful because it helped me acknowledge in my heart (not just intellectually in my head) WHAT my problems are, where they stem from, and how to move BEYOND them!
My life is SO MUCH MORE JOYFUL now without the poison of living with a personality-disordered person! I wish EACH OF YOU joy, knowledge, and self-love!