getting annoyed after ten years
DH and I have been married for ten years. We have a daughter in elementary school. Lately, I've been really annoyed with my husband. He's always been a "smart ass" but it bothers me lately and I wish he would stop. He has always put people down but that bugs me lately too. He treats me fine, for the most part. My friends think I'm lucky...he helps around the house, is a wonderful father, hardworking/go getter type, buys me nice presents, makes me laugh, supports me, etc. I have always longed for a husband who would tell me that I am pretty, beautiful and sexy. Not constantly, just once in a while would be nice. He does not do this. I have told him that this makes me sad that he doesn't do it. I have realized that his self esteem is so low that this is hard for him. That's my theory. I don't want my daughter to pick up on this condescending type thing he's got going on. I don't want her to think that you "elevate" yourself by putting others down. I'm not perfect, nobody is, but I'm just getting tired of these things. He's shy and worried about what people think at times, that bugs me too. Sorry for all of the complaining, but I need to vent. I know that this is how he has always been and I should've realized this ten years ago. I would never want to break our family up over this. It would just be nice to approach the issues without having a big fight. Does anyone have any advice for me? Thank you.