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Has anyone tried "how to survive the affair" program?
I am trying to decide weather to go with Mort Ferterl or above program or counseling. I need to find out how much the counseling is tough... it may be out of reach of our budget. we are already hurting from both of us losing our job last year.We had a rocky relationship past 3 years due to our financial situation. he changed his job about 4 times in past 3 years all of it didn't make that much money due to it being paid by commission only. I think we grow apart in last three years. For him not taking financial responsibility, I work and handles all the money matters. I tried to be a supportive wife by not complaining much about him not getting home almost every night by 11pm. According to him he needs to network for his work.... we still tried to make it work to have a lunch date or dinner date otherwise we don't see each-other for a couple of days!
Before all of this financial thing he was my best thing. we had a great relationship. we talked most of things out. now he tells me there's someone he fell in love. And tells me he is not in love with me. but still want to maintain our marriage.
He suggest open relationship. I am not crazy about that idea.

Strangely I am not angry at him or her. I think he has to find love from someone else because I didn't give it to him. I let financial thing all worked up inside of me and blame him for it and neglected to act loving toward him. I even refuse to have sex too. even tough I just wanted some time to us alone and wanted to feel like I was cared for.

I still feel like there's some glimpse of hope between us but not 100% sure. wish me luck. Any advise or experience with program you have tried would be a great help.

Thank you in advance.