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post #1 of 11 (permalink) Old 11-11-2013, 02:46 PM Thread Starter
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When to start dating again

Just coming out of a long relationship of 5 years (GF not marriage). Wanted to know how long until i should go on, say Match.com or similar and networking on my own to begin dating. Any guidelines here would be most helpful. Thanks.

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post #2 of 11 (permalink) Old 11-11-2013, 02:49 PM
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Re: When to start dating again

When you are ready and over your ex.
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It's so subjective to so many things I don't know if anyone can tell you when. Some that have deal with abuse may take several years, others that grew apart or had been in room mate mode for many months or years may find it easier to move on.
For me, when I stopped giving a sh!t about my stbxw I knew it was time to move on. I still check the computer and gps every once in awhile as I continue to build my evidence file "arsenal" should the divorce process get ugly, but I could really care less otherwise.

"It's not until you've lost everything that you're free to do anything." Fight Club

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I think the question for me will come down to ... when can I afford to date again?
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Re: When to start dating again

When you meet someone and you think, gee I'd like to see this person again. Then you ask for a date. No time line on that. Just is what it is. You'll know when you get there, no need to be setting any kind of schedule.
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GO for it. Just take your time and date different kinds of people. Figure out what you want for your life and how you would like to live it. Then meet people who enjoy those same things, that lifestyle.

"When you meet someone and you think, gee I'd like to see this person again. Then you ask for a date. No time line on that. Just is what it is. You'll know when you get there, no need to be setting any kind of schedule. " this is good advice
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When you started becoming jealous of the people in the porn you're watching because "hey at least they're getting some."


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Now. Why wait? Put yourself out there. Doing so is part of finding your feet again. Have no expectations and don't take it too seriously. But you never know when something good is going to come along. Carpe Diem
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When you want to. Don't rush into something you are not ready for. Getting FWBs is definitely far easier than pursuing a relationship.
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When you want to do it. I'd give yourself enough time to determine if you possibly enjoy being single.

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Re: When to start dating again

Depends on your objective. To have fun, increase your social circle, have sex...is all good and you can do it now.

To pursue a new relationship.....wait till you are healthy enough to have one. In other words completely over your x. Their is no set time when it feels right
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