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post #1 of 8 (permalink) Old 11-26-2013, 03:03 PM Thread Starter
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Hi all, i am new here and hope to get some advice from you all.
I have been married for over 8yrs now with 3 children.

My hubby have a female friend coworker whom and his relationship with her is getting out of control. He will invite her to any social gathering that we are attending and when i try to ask him why he is inviting her, he will just say or she is lonely and requested he invite her whenever we have something going on.

Recently i realized that my husband has been going on lunch and gym with this girl. Although they no longer work in the same office ,he still text and call her everyday. Sometimes he spend late hours at work. I have confronted him about that and denied it and even caused me out . What do i do?

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post #2 of 8 (permalink) Old 11-26-2013, 03:10 PM
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Ultimatum time.

Tell him there's only room for one of you in his life.

2 women is one too many. While you understand why it might work for him, you're getting the short end of the deal, you didn't sign up for this and you won't tolerate it.

Be prepared to follow through.
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post #3 of 8 (permalink) Old 12-13-2013, 05:15 PM
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My marriage just ended because of the same situation. Once they are attached it ruins everything. You need to set the boundary now that female friends/texting is not ok in a marriage. You may even want to tell her the same thing and block her number. These women boost their egos and make them feel like the grass is greener when truly its not. If your marriage was completely solid he would not be talking to her at all. Make it stop now!
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Oh no, I really would not like this at all, Its just, well.... I am lost for words, and that does not happen often.

Hes having lunch and gym dates, You have not said how often, but i get the feeling that it happens a lot, by the way you have explained things.

He invites her along to all your social gatherings, and hes now requested that she comes wherever you go.... I hope you can see that this is really unacceptable, well it would be for me if it was my hubby!!!.

You need to speak to him, tell him how you feel and that your not happy with this at all, something is not right here......

Your on here asking for advice, so this must be bothering you an awful lot, and so it should, Its not right.

I mean have you spoke to him about this????
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I just joined, so I'm not sure if it's really too late to post a comment, however in the slim chance this might help..

Tell your husband to STOP that relationship with this B&#ch he works with immediately! She should know the bonds of womanhood well enough to know that you don't hang out with another woman's husband FOR ANY REASON. It's disrespectful and it's shady and I'm sorry to say hun, but there's more going on than what meets the eye. Get rid of her. There is nothing alright about this relationship with her. It's poison to your marriage. Trust me!
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Talk to your husband and then to her. Remind them both that you are married and this behavior of having her around is an intrusion into a marriage. Stop this behavior now or your marriage is gone. I am married going on 35 years. Trust the advice of long term married women. Another woman in the picture, friend/ex-girlfriend/even in-laws, is a threat to a marriage. Stand your ground!
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post #7 of 8 (permalink) Old 10-18-2014, 04:48 PM
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A co worker that wants to be invited to another woman's husband events all the time? Yeah....I smell trouble in the future. It's ok if she tries to get to know you as well, out of respect, and become your friend as well. But if she is always out trying to get time with him, that is a red flag. She needs to find another co worker who is single to hang out with all the time.
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He is cheating but I think this was a ZOMBIE thread. OP posted and stopped?
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