Couple Retreat Therapy

Mandia99508 · 07-15-2010, 06:44 PM

Is there such a thing?? I've seen the movie, and the concept is interesting. Honestly my husband won't go to therapy if I drag him there. However sadly, I'd like to entrap him in to a retreat type thing by saying it's a vacation. I NEED him to talk! I need him to interact with a therapist or an aid that can help us in our marriage. Because he will not go to one on his own, but if he gets stuck at retreat maybe I can make some headway. Maybe. Any ideas? Or is this just terrible idea.

lbell629 · 07-15-2010, 10:36 PM

I don't think I would lie to your H about the retreat because once he finds out, he could be really angry and not willing to open up at all! The fact that he isn't willing to go on his own, is why I say this. Have you told him that you NEED him to talk to you and that you would like for the two of you see a counselor. Have you told him how much you are hurting becauase you aren't talking. Maybe suggest the retreat before seeing a counselor and see if things don't change. Or if he still refuses to go, go see a counselor by yourself.

Mandia99508 · 07-17-2010, 08:47 PM

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Originally Posted by lbell629

I don't think I would lie to your H about the retreat because once he finds out, he could be really angry and not willing to open up at all! The fact that he isn't willing to go on his own, is why I say this. Have you told him that you NEED him to talk to you and that you would like for the two of you see a counselor. Have you told him how much you are hurting becauase you aren't talking. Maybe suggest the retreat before seeing a counselor and see if things don't change. Or if he still refuses to go, go see a counselor by yourself.

I agree with you. Trapping him will only make him angrier.

Yes I have begged and pleaded. He simply responds with "no I will never open up. I don't open up to anyone."

I have tried not to include how it affects me too much because when I do that only makes things worse. He needs to feel in control and when I share how his depression is affecting me, it forces him to realize he has no control. He needs that sense of control, it helps him get better. I know this because it always has in the past.