yankeesladie38

Well me and husband been together since I was 19 and I'm now 41. We constantly fight and argue almost all the time. We have 3 kids but grown now n a grandson. He always telling me lately he's not not happy or he wants to alone just the other day he told me he regrets the day we meet and the day we got married. We fight about money and other stuff I just feel I can't do anything right anymore. Last year we had almost the same problem he started talking to his ex gf from almost 30yrs ago n constantly talking n then he left for a couple days and I come to find out he was at her house one night but no idea what happen he told me nothing he was just there talking about our relationship to her. Can someone please tell me the meaning of the word cheating. I'm so confused and don't what to do anymore but the thing is I do love him.
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Pandakiss

hi--

sorry this is hitting you so suddenly. i dont think he wants to be married anymore. no husband talks to and ex of 30 years, and goes to their house for an overnite.

you should know that after this many years together, yes its cheating. he appears to have completly checked out. ask him if he wants a divorce. tell him he owes you the truth.

if he wants out, go to counceling to end the marriage the right way. i am sorry this is happening to you right now....

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yankeesladie38

He didn't go over there for an overnite I believe they just talk as far I know. But honstely I'm not sure anymore he's always saying sometimes he wants to be alone sometimes he gets tired of being near me sometimes we argue over almost everything lately. But back when he he did leave for those few days I happen to read a message he sent to his ex gf on facebook that said oh ill see you later that night. But I don't know if he went there but from other messages I saw between the two of them she was trying to talk to him n tell to back to ur wife(me) n work things out. But now we are still having the same issues still idk if it is because I'm goin through menopause rite now I don't enjoy having sex all the time n don't like being cuddle with either all the time n the mood swings don't help either he tells all the time he loves me very much.
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disbelief

Sorry to see you are going through this, some may consider this an emotional affair. Have you done marriage counselling? If u do search for a pro marriage councillor. Our mc was helping us right to divorce. I have found lots of good resources. This forum, marriagebuilders.com, divorce busting, retrouaville I am hearing is good.
If he is in an affair he will not be truthful. Remember to take care of yourself there is alot of support here. Stay strong read about the 180. That's my 2 cents good luck.
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