06-05-2011, 06:17 PM
Join Date: May 2011
| | Which book should we choose?
We have had a 20 yr roller coaster ride. My husband absolutely refuses counseling. I believe he has had EA's, ( I can think of at least 5) he denies it. He is emotionally distant, withholds sex and affirmation, is financially irresponsible, and probably feels trapped most of the time. He tells me that I nag, belittle him and that my insecurity is not his problem. I have felt unloved, abandoned, sometimes ugly (in his eyes) and ineffective at effecting a positive change. Well, without specifics that is the bad parts of our 20yrs in a nutshell. Today my husband agreed to spending time to better our relationship by spending 10-30 min. a night or at least a few nights a week reading a book together and doing whatever it says. He said I can even pick out one of those christian books I have. So which one do we choose? I am willing to order one, but to start with I have quite a few on hand.
1. The five love languages, Gary Chapman 2. Love must be tough, Dr. James Dobson 3. Getting the Love you want, Harville Hendrix 4. Emothional Fitness for couples, Barton Goldsmith 5. The Love Dare with the movie Fireproof
Any additional suggestions on what has helped you and a vote on which book to start with is greatly appreciated.