07-29-2011, 04:47 PM
Join Date: Jul 2011
| | Re: Need to "unofficially" get married, help?
There are some pastors who will marry without a license, but only if they have not already been authorized by the state to marry people. Finding one of those can be tricky. My advice would be to scour the Internet for any possible names. Googling "government-free marriage" or "marriage without a license" may help.
One guy comes to mind named Matt Twehalla (or it may be Trehalla, not sure). I've read some of his articles on marriage and I know he advocates unofficial marriages. I have to warn you though, I can't recall exactly what made me think so, but I remember looking at some of his other doctrines that don't relate to marriage and thinking the guy was a bit looney (apologies if he's anyone's pastor here, it's just my opinion). Still, if you contact him, he may be able to tell you about ministers in your area that may be willing to officiate without a license. There's another pastor I saw on a YouTube interview, but his name won't come to me now. Sorry.
You can also have someone you know who is not an authorized officiant bless your union. This person can be a best friend, family member or someone in your community who is willing to do so. I know you want it blessed by God, which is good, but there's nothing in the bible or other holy text that I'm aware of that says it has to be by a priest, minister or a pastor. Most of them would frown on what you're about to do anyway since she's still legally married.
As I told someone in another thread, just be sure that you work out the legal things like power of attorney, living trusts, etc. with an actual attorney first. Since she's still legally married, you can expect to have some issues with property rights, medical rights and so forth, but an attorney can paint a better picture for you than I can.
There's an inexpensive ebook on Amazon called marriage without a license, but I'm not sure it would help you on the actual "how to" part. It may, however, help to give you some insight on what you're about to do.
I can't stress enough how important it is to talk to an attorney though. With minor children and real estate involved, this could get very, very messy if you don't legally protect yourselves even without a marriage license.