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post #16 of 20 (permalink) Old 11-24-2015, 02:42 AM Thread Starter
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Re: lost confused and not really sure what to do

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One week is not really that long. Sure, she should be communicating, but she isn't, so let her have her space.

Today is Sunday. My advice is to spend all day cleaning the house or doing the laundry alone. Don't tell her you're doing it, just start doing it. And don't stop. Your wife is overwhelmed. Being a SAHM can be very tough and isolating. You never get to see your job get "done" and stay "done" because the mess always.comes.back!!! There's very little immediate satisfaction and ZERO appreciation.
appreciate this comment - thanks. it's been 20 days now, so this is far worse than its ever been.

I also appreciate the POV about SAHM being touch and isolating. Any advice on how to help on that front? being at work all day makes it tough to drop in

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Re: lost confused and not really sure what to do

Look man, women need certain things. Mainly the little stuff. Do you take an interest in her?

Compliment her when she looks good? Maybe give her a back rub before you go to bed?
Pick her up a meaningful gift just for nothing? Fiddle with her hair when you watch tv or going to sleep? Give her a foot massage when you're just sitting on the couch talking?

Do not underestimate the importance of a date night. You and her take the time to get out by yourself once a week. Just simple things.

All these little things are for getting the connection back. Makes you have a closer connection. And you'll get a return back.

The other thing is women do not like doormats. They will end up having no respect for you. It doesn't mean losing your temper and breaking things. You don't have to be mr macho but you do have to stand up for yourself. If you don't respect yourself no one else will. Hence read NO More Mr Nice Guy. It's a free download.
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Maybe stop talking and start doing?Little gestures, walk up behind her and give her a cuddle, ask her if she'd like to go somewhere nice for dinner, hold hands and get in touch with each other. Ignore her scowls and act like you can't see them...offer her a drink...little things, regularly, but don't go overboard. You're disconnected and maybe the other night was the straw that broke the camels back, but maybe it doesn't mean the end either, just a shift of attitudes towards each other?
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Maybe stop talking and start doing?Little gestures, walk up behind her and give her a cuddle, ask her if she'd like to go somewhere nice for dinner, hold hands and get in touch with each other. Ignore her scowls and act like you can't see them...offer her a drink...little things, regularly, but don't go overboard. You're disconnected and maybe the other night was the straw that broke the camels back, but maybe it doesn't mean the end either, just a shift of attitudes towards each other?
Exactly! This is a must. It doesn't take that much time or effort. This part is on you. Every woman needs attention and made to feel special.

Doing nothing will result in more of the same and doing nothing long term may mean the end of your marriage. Start now!!!!!

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Re: lost confused and not really sure what to do

Has it always been like this or is it a recent development?

If recent how long?????
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