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post #1 of 6 (permalink) Old 01-04-2016, 11:50 AM Thread Starter
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I dunno who to talk to right now so I joined here which I thought would help me with my problems in marriage. I gave birth to our first child 7 months ago, I suffered from postpartum depression and I never knew exactly if I was through it already. My husband and I fight a lot almost everyday,we barely talk about it right after fighting which I think aggravates the problem. There are a lot issues ranging from money to how I take care our daughter. Sometimes it gets to me every time we fight, he shouts and becomes violent. I don't feel scared of him somehow but I always can't even think of getting rid of him or think about separation because I still consider our child. I am a working mom, I work at night and I feel mentally, physically and emotionally exhausted. It seems too muchs fighting may affect our baby and I feel sorry for that. I just can't stand my husband anymore. There's no more intimate time for us nor quality time together. I guess I'm too busy being a mom and too protective with my baby. My husband says I'm always against him, that I always disagree with everything he says so on and so forth. I'm stressed at work and the pressure of motherhood really kills me. I'm considering to see a doctor or seek professional help. One thing I could not forget was when he chased me yelling my name and when I didnt turn around he cursed me. I just hate the feeling of not being respected by someone you chose to live forever with. We were together for more than 10 years but just tied the knot because I got pregnant. It was out of the plan but we were happy at first but now it seems everything is falling apart. I hope anyone can help. Thank you.
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Re: Newly married but always fighting

He gets violent. Then you should call 999 or 911 or the local equivalent thereof and call the police.

Call a lawyer, too, to protect you and your daughter.
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post #3 of 6 (permalink) Old 02-12-2016, 11:56 AM
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Re: Newly married but always fighting

Do you want your daughter to grow up in a household where there is constant anger and cursing?

Do you want her to think that's a normal way for men to behave, and the example she should be looking for in a man?

Would you want her to stay with a man who treated her that way?

Do you want to risk her getting hurt, even inadvertently, because of his violence?
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We were together for more than 10 years but just tied the knot because I got pregnant. It was out of the plan but we were happy at first but now it seems everything is falling apart. I hope anyone can help. Thank you.
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Man! 10 years plus of "testing driving", and this unforeseen whirlwind follows.

(BTW I notice that I am a Registered User. How does one become a member.

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Re: Newly married but always fighting

My initial thought is...in the ten years you were together, there probably were red flags that you just swept away. People don't just turn angry, violent, emotionally abusive, etc over night...or right after marriage. They demonstrate that type of behavior throughout the relationship, and it gets worse after marriage, but just doesn't suddenly appear after marriage. I wouldn't tolerate abuse, emotional or physical, so how much you're willing to tolerate is up to you. Prayers that things get better, and strength for you to make some tough decisions.
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A baby makes everything harder. But maybe ig you giys talk more it will get better. I really think professional help is the way to go. I hope you get to resolve things soon for your babys sake. VIOLENCE AND ANGER ARE A BIG NO NO
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