Re: I'm confused and hurt and need to move forward
I hate telling people how to react to things, as everyone is different. But IMO, you shouldn't take it so personal. I look at it, and if naked pics are too much for you, then by your standards some of the stuff I view might make you faint. But I still love my wife dearly, don't view her as a piece of meat, or try to replicate what I see in the bedroom. I think a certain level of viewing can help a relationship by keeping the flame stoked. Maybe you two can come to an agreement about him watching it. Maybe just periodically and when you're not in the house.
That said, if you and him had relations more often, he may not feel the need to watch it.