Re: Wife cannot overcome my past relationship
How long did you know her before you got married and was it long distance? Do you have any children?
You seem to be entertaining the idea that she has the right to harass you about this relationship. Please be assured that it is not about your past relationship but about the present one and a problem that she has. Thats what you should focus on.
She has no right press for details and demand you destroy your ex who has nothing to do with her. You were transparent and told her about the relationship from the start, she decided to continue the relationship with you.
If it was a problem for her she should have moved on to someone else. I say this to convince you that it is not about the ex. It is something basic about her. It's hard to believe that she is so unreasonable in one ares and not in many others. Can you reassess your relationship and be honest with yourself. You had a 12 yr relationship that was not intimate as you had hoped.
The fact tat it lasted more than 2 months says something about your picker, it seems way off. My suggestion is to approach this totally differently. Deal with it as a psychological problem that she needs to resolve and don't talk about your 12 yr relationship.
It's finished and there is no more to say. Get her to see a IC and you see one too. Make it clear to her that the talk about this ex is over and the time has come to resolve both your issues.
Don't have children if you have not already. Make a plan and give a set period of time for a successful resolution. Reassess at that time. If you have done the work on your problems during that time, the solution with be obvious.
My magic wand would remove shame from sexuality for all! Anon Pink
Last edited by Catherine602; 08-20-2016 at 06:18 PM.