Wife cannot overcome my past relationship
We have been married for 1.5 years. We have had good moments and enjoy most things together. But my wife goes absolutely berserk and crazy every once in a while, because I had a 12 year long relationship with another girl, prior to our marriage. I had revealed the relationship before my marriage, and always stressed that it was not good. That part is absolutely true. It was mostly long distance, with hardly 2 years together in same place. There was no sex involved. And the only reason the relationship lasted 12 years was because I was very very persistent, and thought things may work out. It did not and the earlier relationship died a natural death. Yet, my wife feels I did not reveal the best moments of my past relationship, and she absolutely hates me for this. My commitment to marriage has been 100%, I dont even think about the past relationship, since I have been married. In fact, my last contact with my earlier girlfriend was 3 years prior to me getting married, even though I was guilty of stealing a glance once in a while at her facebook profile, till my marriage.
Now I cant bear to see this crazy wild abusive side of my wife, which is persistently pulling our marriage down. I always felt that since I am over my earlier relationship, and it does not remotely impact my current life, this would be a non-issue. Sadly, it is a huge issue! It has brought our marriage to the brink of divorce. I do not know how to pacify my wife. My wife wants me to get in touch with my ex and spoil her life, even in a small way if possible, so that my wife can be sure I am over her.