Re: Wife's affair
She can't make herself feel like an orgasm. She could fake it, I guess, but is that what you want?
I don't think it's ok that she feels this way. Not saying she can help it, but there's clearly a problem there, in my thinking. And I think that this will keep eating at you. I would think about why I was staying in the marriage, and what I would do if it doesn't improve. (I'm not trying to say "call your divorce lawyer" there, though that is obviously an option. In my case I stayed married for the kids, so I was willing to accept that not everything would be perfect with my wife.)