I love him but I'm considering leaving.
My husband (not officially married but we treat each other like we are married) and I have been together for about 5 years now, we met while in the Navy and ever since our first conversation I knew that he was the man that I wanted to be with for the rest of my life. We have a 15 month old daughter and since she was born our relationship has been more of a roommates who sleep in the same bed type of relationship, he loves our daughter so much and is a great father to her. His work keeps him out of state during the week and he comes home for the weekend if they dont need him to work the weekends, it's very difficult but we make it work and his job helps provide for what we need. I am so grateful for everything he does for our family but it seems like he takes me as his wife for granted, I stay home with our daughter and attend school full time, I take care of the house and the chores because I love him and he works hard for us (he does help around the house if I ask him to) and I know that all of this probably has people already saying "he's amazing so just let him be" which is why I'm extremely grateful for what he does for us, but our relationship has become minimal, we havent gone out together on a baby free date since Alex was born, and not for lack of people to watch her for us. He just doesnt make the effort anymore, along with we have only had 3 dates with baby in tow and they were just to the restaurant he likes, even after I've asked to go to a different place. I've talked to him clearly and calmly about wanting us to regain the connection we once had by spending quality time together quite a few times over the past year and there's always an excuse or he guilt trips me to staying home. We have no sex life, in the past year we've been intimate between 3-5 times and he just touched me a little then got in and got out, it wasnt about us being intimate it was more like just doing it so I'd stop bringing it up. I'm in a hard place because I absolutely love him and want us to be together but I'm not getting any effort from him anymore, to him I'm just the maid and nanny, I am 25 years old and I still want to feel affection and that I'm desirable, I'm not sure what I can do to get through to him but I cant keep feeling this way for the rest of my life, I feel that if he doesnt want to take me out, that I should just go out without him, but I'm worried that in doing that will just make him feel worse and pull even farther from me, I'm not sure what I should do, any help would be appreciated.