Re: A bit confused - need help
I agree with Gus. Show him what you wrote and see what his reaction is. Despite what the "you go girl" choir is saying, it sounds as though there seems to be a huge disconnect in communications. It MAY be on his end, it MAY be on your end, or you may both be to blame. But without an honest discussion it in not possible to know.
Guys are not clueless dolts that just don't listen. The react to things they see and hear. So while you are asking for date nights or trying to schedule sex, are you forgetting commenting about wanting a bigger house, a nicer car, the new jewelry your sister just got? Your H may not be working all those extra hours are that stressful job, for his own pleasure. He may be working them to try to meet some of the other needs that he perceives you as asking for. Hearing additional requests for "date nights" after he comes home exhausted or being told you can "schedule" sex might really turn off a guy who already feels as though his entire life is already scripted for him.
At the center of every moMEnt of my life is ME!