So, we've been married for almost 6 years.
We have 2 amazing little boys, I'm a SAHM while he runs a very stressful business.
Marriage was great for the first 3 years. We had our occasional disagreements and fights but nothing too serious and would step right back in as if nothing happened. During my 2nd pregnancy I really felt the pressure. He wasn't supportive, never helped (while I had a child under 2 to deal with as well as a pregnancy), never attended doctor visits, never did chores.
After the baby was born things didn't improve.
I don't feel attracted to him anymore because of his actions, I personally feel depressed and neglected and can't bring myself to loving him when I get nothing in return.
I've suggested game nights, social gatherings, movie nights, daily kisses, scheduled sex, anything I could find online basically but he doesn't follow through.
I don't know how we got to this stage but at the moment we barely talk, there's no affection, we don't go out, don't even eat together.
I'm exhausted, I do it all and he goes to work - which I understand is exhausting but he works 6 days a week by choice and on his only day off he likes to hang around with his family - with us in the background.
I feel alone. I feel I do everything (he won't won't even pick up his own dirty plate or clothes) all with the excuse that he goes to work. I'd love to work but there's no one to take care of OUR boys.
A few nights ago he came on to me, I wasn't feeling it and pushed him away, went to the bathroom and cried my eyes out for half hour, when I got back he was snoring! Since then I've not been able to talk, I've talked so many times and I don't think he realizes there's a deeper issue here.
How to start a conversation? How to get right to the root of it and make him realize that I can't be doing this for much longer??
We have 2 amazing little boys, I'm a SAHM while he runs a very stressful business.
Marriage was great for the first 3 years. We had our occasional disagreements and fights but nothing too serious and would step right back in as if nothing happened. During my 2nd pregnancy I really felt the pressure. He wasn't supportive, never helped (while I had a child under 2 to deal with as well as a pregnancy), never attended doctor visits, never did chores.
After the baby was born things didn't improve.
I don't feel attracted to him anymore because of his actions, I personally feel depressed and neglected and can't bring myself to loving him when I get nothing in return.
I've suggested game nights, social gatherings, movie nights, daily kisses, scheduled sex, anything I could find online basically but he doesn't follow through.
I don't know how we got to this stage but at the moment we barely talk, there's no affection, we don't go out, don't even eat together.
I'm exhausted, I do it all and he goes to work - which I understand is exhausting but he works 6 days a week by choice and on his only day off he likes to hang around with his family - with us in the background.
I feel alone. I feel I do everything (he won't won't even pick up his own dirty plate or clothes) all with the excuse that he goes to work. I'd love to work but there's no one to take care of OUR boys.
A few nights ago he came on to me, I wasn't feeling it and pushed him away, went to the bathroom and cried my eyes out for half hour, when I got back he was snoring! Since then I've not been able to talk, I've talked so many times and I don't think he realizes there's a deeper issue here.
How to start a conversation? How to get right to the root of it and make him realize that I can't be doing this for much longer??