dswifey

i've been trying to approach my relationship and communication with my spouse in a more assertive, constructive fashion.... i'm wondering if anyone has any resources that provide guidences/suggestions in this area?

Any activities or the like that the two of us could do together to build on our ability communicate with one another constructively?

thanks!

Coffee Amore

I borrowed a book from the library that was quite helpful. It's "My answer is "No" if that's ok with you: How women can say no and (still) feel good about it." The author is Dr. Nanette Gartrell, an award-winning psychiatrist.

The book can be read over few days. Dr. Gatrell explains how one can set limits with family members, friends, employees and even your supervisor.. It's hard for women to say "no" and set limits. Women feel anxious or guilty. We worry that others won't like us, they'll think we're mean. Instead we reluctantly agree or we refuse by coming up with elaborate excuses instead of giving a simple "no".

Love Busters: Overcoming Habits That Destroy Romantic Love by Dr. Willard Harley is good for marital relationships. He talks about how selfish demands, angry outbursts, judgments, dishonesty, annoying habits negatively impact a relationship.